• hedge_lord@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    3
    ·
    1 hour ago

    Rip and tear. Rip and tear until it is done.

    (I wouldn’t recommend this but I can’t stop doing it)

  • random
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    3
    ·
    7 hours ago

    am I the only one whos facial hair started growing extremely slow after starting hrt?

  • qyron@sopuli.xyz
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    25
    ·
    edit-2
    21 hours ago

    I’m not trans but I can relate with this. I would live very happy without facial hair.

    • Digestive_Biscuit@feddit.uk
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      19 hours ago

      Same here. And it’s not just for to shaving. Why do I have hair on my shoulders, back, etc. I’d be happy if every single person was bald. Nobody can complain then, no judgement on hair choice, colour, etc. knowing us humans though, we would fine ways to make our skulls look different.

      • qyron@sopuli.xyz
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        4
        ·
        18 hours ago

        Tattoos or scarification comes to mind. Weird piercings. Or funny hats.

        I made up my mind very early that if/when I get bald, I’ll just shave my head. Makes no sense to me to hold on to half dozen hairs on my head. But I wouldn’t like to see everyone bald. I like seeing how people use their hair to express themselves. When I see someone with their hair dyed a wild color my only concern is how bad it may be for the hair and if I’m crossing that narrow line between looking and staring. But the look? Really not my concern. Makes the world a more interesting place to exist.

          • qyron@sopuli.xyz
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            7
            ·
            18 hours ago

            I can relate with that.

            In my country, there’s a good humoured way to describe the “beard” I have: half a dozen hairs, playing cards, and they still haven’t found the table. Spotty, thin, uneven, that just passes a sense of being unclean when it starts to grow. And the itching sensation… At least I don’t get that greenish tint on my skin when the hairs are close shaven. Those guys are really unlucky.

  • Kualdir@feddit.nl
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    51
    ·
    1 day ago

    I’m not trans but I hate this as well 😭 my beard grows uneven so I can’t even leave it on if I wanted to

    Meanwhile my hairline loses land faster than the netherlands would if they didn’t build dams

    • Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      6
      ·
      19 hours ago

      I’m lucky I don’t have the hair thinning problem. The beard sucks though, I always hated having a beard. It’s one of the first signs looking back that I wasn’t anywhere near as cis as I thought I was.

      • Kualdir@feddit.nl
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        8 hours ago

        For me, if my beard just grew alright I’d keep it but it grows so uneven that its basically just impossible ;-;

        • anomnom@sh.itjust.works
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          2
          ·
          edit-2
          4 hours ago

          It’s partially the itchiness, but also allergy season that keeps me from having a beard. Too hard to blow your nose with one unless you want to look like Abe Lincoln.

          Edit: trout? Wtf autocorrect

          • Kualdir@feddit.nl
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            1
            ·
            4 hours ago

            Totally understandable! The faster growing / thicker part of my beard also tends to be a bit itchy if I let it grow for too long (sometimes I have hope it’ll finally look good ok) but not that bad that I would shave it because of that so for me its luckily not that huge of an issue.

      • Kualdir@feddit.nl
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        3
        ·
        21 hours ago

        I’ve only lived here for a few months still learning, thanks for the correction I’m learning!

        • Thelsim@sh.itjust.works
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          3
          ·
          19 hours ago

          Oh wow, I didn’t know that. Welcome!
          How are you finding it so far?
          I hope you’ll have a good time living here :)

          • Kualdir@feddit.nl
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            3
            ·
            19 hours ago

            Moved from just over the border (Belgium) so not a huuuuge change in life but liking it here! Actually signing tomorrow to buy an appartement so here to stay :p

            The only thing I got a heart attack about was my health insurance costs being about 14x higher than Belgium but more net salary made up for it xD

  • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    14
    ·
    22 hours ago

    My older brother told the excited me that was beginning to grow facial hair that it’s a curse cause you keep shaving and the next day it’s back. I basically agree now.

    • answersplease77@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      4
      ·
      edit-2
      17 hours ago

      Some races are really cursed like persians, middleeasterns, indians, and some serbians. It’s crazy monkey shit. extensive hair growing in the middle of your neck every fucking day. Your knuckles and arms look like that of a wolf. I swear one day you’d slit your throat with the razor you’re shaving with because this shit wont stop. Or how about in the middle of your upper back, physically unreachable area of your body. And wtf is the pointing of that hair while I’m balding I need it on top of my head.

  • apotheotic (she/her)@beehaw.org
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    31
    ·
    1 day ago

    Its simple. Have an expert stick a probe into each follicle and zap it painfully with electricity. All it takes is a shit load of money, time, and pain!

    • applebusch
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      9 hours ago

      Or you can spend $1200 on a home unit and spend a shit load of time and pain both learning a new skill and destroying your facial hair in the comfort of your own home! You won’t get discouraged by the magnitude of the project at all…

    • xamirozar@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      5
      ·
      edit-2
      21 hours ago

      My wife has been having this done and it has been successful so far. About 2 months in. Once a week. Noticeable difference especially with darker hairs around mouth.

    • Diva (she/her)@lemmy.ml
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      23 hours ago

      I will say if they’re skilled you shouldn’t feel the insertions, they will tune the settings to your pain threshold, I often doze off while getting mine 😅

      • i_dont_want_to
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        4
        ·
        13 hours ago

        I am jealous of your pain tolerance. It is absolute agony on certain parts of my body, but at least just stings for others.

      • apotheotic (she/her)@beehaw.org
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        5
        ·
        19 hours ago

        The insertions don’t hurt, yeah :) I certainly can’t doze off, its quite painful even with tattoo numbing cream. It has to be some minimum threshold to actually be effective so I just have to bear it.

  • celeste
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    26
    ·
    1 day ago

    I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle I hate the daily struggle

    • UpperBroccoli
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      18 hours ago

      That’s about the time when the ear and nose hair suddely start to grow like crazy.

      • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        4
        ·
        edit-2
        17 hours ago

        Perhaps some people never actually lose their hair - rather, their hair just keeps migrating across their bodies. Roaming from land to foreign land, traveling into new territory with every season of life.

  • djsoren19
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    13
    ·
    edit-2
    24 hours ago

    Started using a facial hair removal cream, and holy shit what a difference it has made. My face is so much smoother now, and it stays smoother for way longer! Highly recommend for any femboys or transfems looking for a good facial hair solution.

    Edit:

    For everyone asking, I use this! Not sponsored, I do not claim this is safe, but it’s worked well for me the last few times I’ve used it and I haven’t noticed any longterm issues. I apply it on heavy and let it sit for a little over 4 min, then I can just wipe away all the beard hair.

    • Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      19 hours ago

      This is awesome, I will try this out. I always hated how shaving made my face scratchy and very close shaves often gave me cuts. This seems almost too good to be true, I guess I’ll know if it is or not when I get it.

      • djsoren19
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        3
        ·
        17 hours ago

        ngl, it feels like a potion I’ve obtained from a witch or something. It’s so weird to just kinda…rub the hair off your face. I’m certainly under their spell, idk what could make me go back to razors for my face ever again.

        • nicky7
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          2
          ·
          2 hours ago

          Hilariously ineffective for my very coarse hair. 🤣 Don’t get me wrong, I really do appreciate the tip, and I’m happy it works for you. 💕 I do plan on giving it another go, but there was no noticeable impact on my facial hair after using it the first time.

          I tried on about 1mm stubble. It felt like a cooling agent on my skin. I waited near 7 minutes (the max according to instructions), and while I could see bits of hair on the towel after wiping, there was no noticeable result on my face.

      • djsoren19
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        3
        ·
        24 hours ago

        Edited my initial comment to include a picture

    • nicky7
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      5
      ·
      1 day ago

      Would you mind sharing the name of the product you’re using? Thanks!!

      • djsoren19
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        24 hours ago

        Edited my initial comment to include a picture.

        • nicky7
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          2
          ·
          20 hours ago

          Thank you! That happens to be what I decided on trying! (I’m impatient so had already started researching :P)

    • Zorsith
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      23 hours ago

      Any recommendations for something full-body?

      • djsoren19
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        3
        ·
        22 hours ago

        Have not found anything I like yet. I’ve just been sticking with waxing.

    • Zzyzx
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      16
      ·
      1 day ago

      Check it out, this gal’s posting noods!

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    10
    ·
    1 day ago

    I’m not sure if you’re actually asking, or expressing the emotions involved in meme form, and I don’t want to possibly make those emotions worse by bringing up the physiology of it without asking first. But, I do know a little about that specific subject, so I’m willing to type that out, if you’re interested.

    • WillStealYourUsernameOP
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      9
      ·
      1 day ago

      Not what I’m asking, but share your knowledge friend! perhaps behind a spoiler as another catgirl suggested

      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        4
        ·
        edit-2
        18 hours ago

        Another catgirl did have a great idea :)

        I’ll add that if someone wants to avoid mentions of the various chemicals of the body, probably best to not uncover the text

        so, part of how hair gets turned from the delicate “peach fuzz” called vellus into a beard is testosterone. That’s pretty obvious, I guess, but it bears saying.

        T, and DHT spike during puberty. This leads to us growing thicker hair across our bodies, even for those folks with ovaries and no testicles. The combination of DHT and T moves into the follicles, into the actual cells involved in growing hair.

        Now, I’d have to go back and re-read a bunch of stuff to be accurate and detailed about the changes inside those cells, and it sound be jargon anyway. But the gist is that the way the keratin is produced, and the cells layer is increased, leading to a thicker and tougher hair. This change is to the cells themselves, the cells of the follicle that produce hair. This means that once those follicles are exposed to androgens, it becomes permanent, within a given range of permanence.

        Even when you take anti-androgens, they can’t undo the changes already made. And, unfortunately, estrogen and other feminizing hormones don’t cause the kind of changes that could completely undo the effects of testosterone.

        What the feminizing hormones can do is decrease the effects of those changes. The good thing is that those changes tend to be equally permanent, within a given range of permanence. The hair will be thinner, softer (as in less coarse) and may be able to get longer (largely genetics). Until and unless testosterone is returned to the system whatever changes do occur from HRT will remain, even if the HRT is discontinued.

        Which means that it takes a combination of efforts to eliminate the thicker, coarser hairs produced under testosterone. You have to eliminate or suppress the T itself, while applying a feminizing agent, then use methodology to either further reduce the thickness from there (like repeated plucking/waxing as one example), or use a mostly permanent removal method line electrolysis.

        !There’s always edge cases, though. Not everyone that goes through male puberty ends up with the same degree of hair changes. So there’s people that just anti-androgens will cause enough reduction in the effects that it would be comparable to someone that went through female puberty. For some people, they can have massive testosterone doses and never grow a beard at all, they get a slightly thicker version of the vellus hairs; genetics can be weird like that.!<