Can’t catch a break

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Cake day: October 12th, 2023

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  • i_dont_want_totoSneerClub@awful.systemsDress for the job
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    2 days ago

    Brainstorm session! How do we make the world a better place, being people that are motivated and live comfortable lives?

    Do we help the needy? Do we use our influence to band together with our similarly-advantaged peers to change politics to make life easier for the disadvantaged? Do we use our able bodies to do volunteer work? Do we live minimalist lives and take only what we need?

    Wrong, we pump out as many kids as possible!

    • the Collinses








  • When I was younger, I put up with a lot of bullshit because I thought it was normal. “Obviously, this person likes me, because they say so. Also I like them, so it will be fine.”

    But look at what his actions are saying. He’s not including you on a list of people he’s grateful for? The first you learn he’s dating another woman is from reading something he posted, instead of him telling you directly?

    What do you want in a guy (or gal or any partner)? Someone loyal to you, someone that makes you feel special, someone that respects you. That should be the minimum. You can add some bonuses later, like having shared hobbies. (And these addons can change, especially since you’re young.) Will you find this person if you’re wasting your time on people that don’t pass this low bar?

    I’ll tell you about this man I dated when I was young. He seemed a bit interested in me, but never talked about me publicly. He had this female friend that he hung out with, a lot. To the point he would ignore me to talk to her. It made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. But I stuck around and tried for months to convince him to want me. And it worked! For a while… Until he snuck around on me again. And again. I finally wised up and threw the whole man away. I got with so many duds after that guy, but those experiences made me learn what to look for until I ended up with my current partner. (Together for the better part of a decade!)

    If I were you, I’d dump this guy. Take a little time to heal if needed. Focus on your hobbies and hanging out with friends. People living their lives have a much better chance of finding a date, if that’s something you’re interested in.





  • As an American that wishes for having stores just that close, the zoning laws are like that for a reason. That reason is to keep people dependent on cars. That is good for the fossil fuel industry.

    I know it’s nonsense. A fair amount of people know it’s nonsense. But also a lot of people don’t know, because they can’t imagine a life without cars (or a life where you don’t need to drive to do every mundane task). They only know no car = no job, food, or socialization and they will fight hard to guard it.