There’s definitely some additional nuance (like a pronouns in bio/username situation) but this should cover the broad needs of anyone who is approaching this with good faith.

    • psud@aussie.zoneEnglish
      1·
      9 hours ago

      use “Ms or Mrs”

      1. It was Miss for unmarried women before Ms was coined and popularised for “none of your business whether I’m married or not” so Ms was acceptable regardless
      2. Doesn’t Mrs look like it’s missing a possessive apostrophe, a Mr’s woman?

      And your main point, degender the male pronouns, it wouldn’t work. “Man” used to mean people, male men and female men and child men – boys and girls – had different words, some of which are still around. That’s why people say there’s nothing gendered in “chairman” (which 50 years ago was logically equal to “chairperson”, unless you count other species as people).

    • spujb@lemmy.cafeOPEnglish
      26·
      1 day ago

      make he/him gender neutral

      ???why not just use they/them like we have been for centuries lmao. your plan would cause so many problems.

    • stray@pawb.socialEnglish
      3·
      19 hours ago

      I actually prefer it as the neutral singular, but everyone decided that was dehumanizing. To me it feels natural because if you don’t know an animal’s or a baby’s gender, you call it it.

      • AdaAEnglish
        3·
        10 hours ago

        People didn’t so much “decide” that, as it was used that way by bigots specifically because it was historically only used for animals and objects. They used it as a slur to hurt folks in our community, and like any attempt to reclaim a slur, even though the reclamation is an act of power, there are going to be people who were targetted by the slur who struggle with the concept of reclamation.