Ada

Admin of lemmy.blahaj.zone

I can also be found on the microblog fediverse at @ada@blahaj.zone or on matrix at @ada:chat.blahaj.zone

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  • AdaAtoAskTransgenderIs trans-hermaphrodite a thing?
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    3 days ago

    No, because surgery doesn’t make you intersex. What you’re describing is a form of gender diversity, not an intersex condition.

    In any case, don’t get too hung up on the label. What you’re describing here is a form of gender diversity and expression that doesn’t fit within the neat binary system the world forces on us, and as a result, the language is imperfect, and ever changing.

    What you should be focusing on is the fact that what you’re describing isn’t this weird strange thing unique to you, but something that folk before you have also experienced


  • AdaAtoAskTransgenderIs trans-hermaphrodite a thing?
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    4 days ago

    The term you’re using isn’t a thing because it’s co-opting intersex identity, with a term that is often perceived as a slur by intersex folk. However penile preserving vaginogplasties are absolutely a thing. They’re not terribly common, but there are surgeons that offer it


  • AdaAtoTransWhat are neovaginas like?
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    5 days ago

    I had penile inversion 7 years ago.

    but is there a hood that they expand out of, and what is the feeling like just in general and when touched?

    I have a clitoral hood. Obviously, I can’t compare the experience to a cis experience, but what I can say is that my clitoris is far more sensitive than it was before bottom surgery. I put that down to it being under a hood and lubricated now (I was circumcised previously). Of note though, I had basically no sensitivity at all there for the first couple of months after surgery, as they nerves recovered

    Do any methods apart from ppt and the other one where they put anal tissue in have lube occur naturally? If so how does this occur?

    Yes, I lubricate. I’m not sure what my surgeon did exactly, but I lubricate. I don’t believe that is true of all penile inversion though, so it’s worth researching/questioning your specific surgeon and their previous patients.

    Does the inside of any of the methods feel like endogynous vaginas over time or does it feel like flat skin or whatever no matter how much time there has been?

    Similar, but not the same? Texture wise, very similar, but the main difference is that my vaginal walls are less flexible and stretchy

    One thing I will add though. I ended up having complications, and scarring, so I lost a lot of my depth. But even so, for me, it’s still so much better than what I had before! 10/10 would do again




  • AdaAtoMental Health@lemmy.worldI am here because Reddit was not safe
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    6 days ago

    Your response to abuse and pain is to put more hurt in the world, and not even aimed at the person who caused the initial pain.

    And that means you don’t care that you’re hurting trans folk. And that’s transphobia. End of story.

    I’ll be blocking your account from this instance now, because whatever your reasoning, making the active choice to hurt people impacts the people around you. You don’t get to spread the hurt just because of past hurt



  • AdaAtoMental Health@lemmy.worldI am here because Reddit was not safe
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    As I said, the issue here when you misgender a trans person who was abusive isn’t the abusive trans person, it’s every other trans person, because you’ve just told every trans person you know and every trans person that reads this that you don’t think trans folks gender is real, that you’re only humouring them as long as they’re polite.

    Spreading more hurt is not the right response to receiving hurt.

    Well of you decide to torture someone for 10 years there will be consequence

    Yep. But right now, you’re arguing that all trans people should face consequences because some trans people can be abusive. Trans people are under attack around the world. We are having our rights stripped, we’re being forced in to spaces with the folk most likely to abuse us, we’re having our identities stripped away.

    And your post here is empowering all of that. It’s saying that it’s ok to do those things, because a trans persons identity is a privilege, not a right.



  • The problem here is that when you misgender the abuser, when you insist that they be treated like a man, you aren’t hurting the abuser, you’re hurting all trans people, who are also at incredibly high risks of sexual and physical abuse themselves. Moreso when they’re forced in to spaces with cis men, who are the most likely group to assault or abuse women (trans and cis).

    Which is to say, the victims hurt shouldn’t be a reason to spread more hurt, and put more people at risk of abuse