There’s definitely some additional nuance (like a pronouns in bio/username situation) but this should cover the broad needs of anyone who is approaching this with good faith.

  • danc4498@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1·
    22 hours ago

    Maybe you misunderstood my actual comment. I’m saying we should use he/him as the general neutral pronoun. That Tom Scott video is saying the same thing as me, just with a different solution.

    You said my plan would cause “so many problems”, and outside of the obvious transition problem, I still see no problems.

    • spujb@lemmy.cafeOPEnglish
      16·
      22 hours ago
      • problem 1: why are you choosing he/him to be gender neutral and not she/her? it gives the impression that grammatical maleness is default and you are going to get pushback for that, whether your intentions are sexist or not.
      • problem 2: making he/him gender neutral strips the identity from male and masculine people.
      • problem 3: you’re suggesting a massive overhaul when there’s literally already a word in place.

      and NO they/them doesn’t “refer to multiple.” the tom scott video abjectly disagrees with you on that, so don’t twist things. even Shakespeare used they/them to refer to singular people.

      honestly this conversation is pointless and boring so i’ll end it here.