How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.

Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Don’t call people eggs, like ever, it’s extremely uncool.

    • CatoblepasEnglish
      9·
      11 hours ago

      An egg is a trans person who hasn’t realized they’re trans yet. When you do realize it, you’ve ’cracked your egg’. The symbolism for new beginnings and a new life is intentional too, IMO.

        • psud@aussie.zoneEnglish
          4·
          8 hours ago

          Then there’s the sub Reddit and several Lemmy communities called egg_irl which accuse people of being an egg due to something they said or a picture they shared.

          I think that’s where “egg” is used badly

          • TotallynotJessicaMEnglish
            3·
            6 hours ago

            It’s not always like that, but it sometimes does become that. It often is just trans or closeted people memeing on their own behavior with the understanding that those behaviors don’t make them trans. That said, it can be tricky to not overstep bounds or imply the wrong thing. I think it’s a force for good overall, but there are a few things to remember when observing it or participating in it.

            1. Do not call other people eggs. It is a term that can describe one’s own journey, but not one that can or should be applied to others. At most, sharing one’s own lived experience as an egg can help others reflect.
            2. Sharing the experience of an egg does not mean someone is trans. Cis people can experience these things without wanting to be another gender.
          • First Majestic CometOPEnglish
            2·
            7 hours ago

            Well it certainly isn’t on !egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone, at least not if I have anything to say about it. Anyone who does will get posts removed, or even bans handed out. The instance doesn’t take too kindly to it either.

            But Reddit though… yeah… it’s really bad there. Don’t go on the Reddit communities if you value your sanity and happiness. Not just egg_irl but traa too, and I think even 196 on Reddit suffers from it unfortunately.

            • psud@aussie.zoneEnglish
              1·
              6 hours ago

              Yeah, I like that one (egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone) as it is generally about fictional characters

        • CatoblepasEnglish
          2·
          8 hours ago

          Definitely, it’s almost always either someone that’s not quite ready to come out or trans people talking about their pre-transition selves. There is a small minority of people who are very insistent on calling other people eggs and seem to think they’re helping, but really are contributing to an environment with more rigid gender roles.

          It’s unfortunate because a lot of the time I think what they’re really wanting to do is talk about their own experiences and how things clicked together for them, but are way overgeneralizing about it and projecting it onto other people.