A disgusting dehumanizing term that views human beings as objects of sexual desire. I know the situation you’re describing. I really hope @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone deals with that person, as they do not belong on a queer friendly instance like this one.

Make no mistake, coming into a trans community asking for “Futa girls” labels you as a highly suspected chaser. It will not lead to anything good. I have banned that shithead from !egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone permanently for it.

I’m not cis but I’m not a trans woman.

That term seems a bit icky to me. It seems to originate as a porn category. Using it outside of the context of porn makes it seem like the focus on the woman is about what she is sexually rather than who she is.

I can’t really see a more charitable use of the term, besides someone reclaiming it for themselves. (Much like “queer” or the f slur for gay men.)

Like any term, highly dependent on context. The porn category / hentai connotation is pretty strong and I would feel really icky being called it out of the blue. But some friends of mine, mostly trans women, throw it around amongst ourselves and it can be amusing too. There is also the rare context, with a LOT of existing trust, where I do like the sexualized nature and view it as affirming. It’s not 100 percent appropriate or inappropriate in any context, but if you’re not sure probably don’t. Especially if you’re cis, pursuing someone, or on a public forum. It’s never a word ya need to use for someone.

I really don’t like it. That’s a term that I’ve only ever seen associated with porn and sexualization, and I’d prefer not to be sexualized or objectified. I agree with you that I find it dehumanizing, and I really don’t like being fetishized. I feel like anyone that would use that term for me is either a chaser or a transphobe, and I don’t want to interact with either. And that’s without getting into the whole Japanese culture talk, which revolves around traditionalism, heteronormalcy, and misogyny that makes it extra uncomfortable.

If people want to sexualize themselves or are okay being sexualized, sure, but in general, no.

Tbh I love it, sometimes I feel like I identify with that label. but I’d also prefer that cis folks don’t call me that without my permission.

futa as in short for the Japanese term futanari?

Personally, I see the obsession with the sexual side of manga/anime as unhealthy to say the least. It portrays unrealistic situations which some people view as a fact of life, especially younger folk who are inundated with it (see: memes). Throwing the transgender “futa” on top of it doesn’t help matters, and while it may seem “kawaii”, if you ever do experience anything they show, it’s an exception, not the norm.