to clarify, the only person’s opinion of you you should truly care about is your own, it is valuable to consider others, but you decide for yourself and only you.
I only have the opinions the girls tell me to have, which 99% of the time is “naps are good.”
this is a good opinion, but only because it aligns with my own of course
As a man I can confirm that my opinions don’t mean shit
As a girl I can confirm that my opinions also don’t mean shit
Thinking about men’s opinions about me: I don’t care B)
Me when one (1) man insults me: ;-;
Why onli mens opinions?..
not only men, nobody’s opinion of you means anything unless you want it to. that being said, I find that it’s most often men who offer unhelpful, or even offensive advice unsolicited. if a man happens to get offended by my unsolicited opinion by seeing this then all I have to say is ~~ <3 ~~ :3c
I jus… I rlli want to believe that that many manly peeps aren’t evil.
I wana believe that this is just me projecting everything bad [capitalist, selfish, unhelpful, not empathetic, unreasonable, loud, aggressive, angry, insults more] onto something, and not axtual reality. Like - it can’t be that clear cut…
Evil is a religious word, they likely aren’t inherently irredeemable but they have probably been conditioned to have certain beliefs about what they should and are allowed to say/think/do which they need to unlearn in order to not be harmful to others.
Bigoted men often comment on women’s appearance.
“Too much makeup.” “Your skirt is too short.” “You should smile more.”
It goes without saying that the women they’re judging weren’t asking for their opinions.
soooo it’s bigoted men who we shouldn’t pay attention to. but that’s like --.-_,.-nothing new >~<
also i’ve never heard peeps say that ever before… maybe cuz im not from the freedom country…
every time i see one of the posts going "This guy told that woman ‘i think u would look nicer without makeup’ " and he’s being portraid negatively, i always thought
but like… what if he like . . .-… idk, what if he means it genuinely, in a non-destructive, non-controlling way?.. like “Hey, we’ve known each other for some time now, and … idk if u think so too, but i think that lipgloss might be just a bit too… aggressive? If u like it it’s totally fine, im very happy if that is the case. I just wanted to share my opinion on this, since u also tell me sometime that my tie looks off or stuff like that”.
Also, i feel it’s weird this is being specifically targeted at men. This might just be me having a weird internal fight of “Men are awful cuz capitalism and selfish” and “Men can be so super nice, let’s not assume the worst all the time”, idk…
If another women were to tell some woman that some makeup might be just a lil too much, would that be much better? If so, i feel that is rather unfair… ;(
The problem is that men generally don’t understand that even “no makeup” looks still feature makeup. I’d also be kinda annoyed if a woman commented negatively on my appearance without solicitation. Like, maybe I want my makeup to be aggressive, stfu!
The amount of times I see people praising a “no-makeup” look when the person has on eyeliner and mascara is way too often. Like have you never seen your own face before?
tbf, I have really lush lashes naturally (っ˘ڡ˘ς)
My favorite ones are the “no makeup/filters” photos where the skin tone is perfectly even across the face which is of course impossible without foundation.
I’m not from the eagle country either (though not in a better place) and by being quite close with my femme relatives I’ve seen this shit happen on many occasions.
It’s almost never polite, it’s never “well I think that would be better”. Oftentimes the “advice” is done with an insult, e.g. by comparing a woman to a prostitute.
Usually they’re just strangers who has no business telling her how she should dress. And yes, if it was a woman saying this it would still be equally bad. But it’s rarely a woman, 99% of the time it’s a man.
Yeah, the premise that all men must be ignored is bad but it’s the emotional response that often develops after yet another such an idiot opens his mouth.
To people who give unsolitcited opinions, not to any of the commenters here:
Sings If we haven’t asked for your opinion then we don’t want to know it. If we haven’t asked for your opinion then we don’t want to know it. If we haven’t asked for your opinion then we don’t want to know it. So fuck you!
That an opinion is stated by an entity does not make the opinion valid by itself.
It is possible that an entity can state a valid opinion.
Thus opinions should be evaluated by their reasoning and not by the entity formulating it.
It is unlikely that an entity’s unsolicited opinion of me is warranted or deserves my evaluation
But not impossible.
I don’t even need to consider their opinion because it was unwarranted. Expecting women to consider every unwanted piece of advice is cruel because too many of them are worthless.
Unless the negative statement is about how another person creates actual problems for you, don’t give it. As a rule, any opinions that don’t qualify should be ignored.
I expect every person to consider every other persons opinion. Well, not really expecting, but I think it would make life better for everybody.
And I think you are right that it would be cruel to expect that just from women.
But that is not a one-way-street. People who give an opinion have the duty to give an opinion that is helpful and comes from a good place and not just bullying.
I expect every person to consider every other persons opinion. Well, not really expecting, but I think it would make life better for everybody.
You would not do well against fascists. It’s not just them though, as anyone can abuse this expectation. People can easily voice unreasonable opinions just to fuck with others and/or waste their time. Don’t pay such voices any mind. Not every voice can be taken in good faith.
On top of that, people rarely want the opinions of others, as they’re often fully aware of what people point out. It just makes them feel ashamed when someone points out something they’re already aware of. When you get the urge to voice your opinion of others, think about why giving it matters to you. Do not “look out for” other people, as it feels patronizing when you try to claim you know what’s best for them. If it isn’t something that affects you, do not say it.
