to clarify, the only person’s opinion of you you should truly care about is your own, it is valuable to consider others, but you decide for yourself and only you.
to clarify, the only person’s opinion of you you should truly care about is your own, it is valuable to consider others, but you decide for yourself and only you.
It is unlikely that an entity’s unsolicited opinion of me is warranted or deserves my evaluation
But not impossible.
I don’t even need to consider their opinion because it was unwarranted. Expecting women to consider every unwanted piece of advice is cruel because too many of them are worthless.
Unless the negative statement is about how another person creates actual problems for you, don’t give it. As a rule, any opinions that don’t qualify should be ignored.
I expect every person to consider every other persons opinion. Well, not really expecting, but I think it would make life better for everybody.
And I think you are right that it would be cruel to expect that just from women.
But that is not a one-way-street. People who give an opinion have the duty to give an opinion that is helpful and comes from a good place and not just bullying.
You would not do well against fascists. It’s not just them though, as anyone can abuse this expectation. People can easily voice unreasonable opinions just to fuck with others and/or waste their time. Don’t pay such voices any mind. Not every voice can be taken in good faith.
On top of that, people rarely want the opinions of others, as they’re often fully aware of what people point out. It just makes them feel ashamed when someone points out something they’re already aware of. When you get the urge to voice your opinion of others, think about why giving it matters to you. Do not “look out for” other people, as it feels patronizing when you try to claim you know what’s best for them. If it isn’t something that affects you, do not say it.