There’s definitely some additional nuance (like a pronouns in bio/username situation) but this should cover the broad needs of anyone who is approaching this with good faith.

  • ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
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    There’s a lot of transphobes that use they/them to not acknowledge the pronouns of trans people, but also to skirt around anti-misgendering rules of social media. I call it “passive-aggressive misgendering”.

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      What if I don’t give a shit about you and your pronouns not because of you being T but simply because you’re a stranger? Is it transphobic?

      Tbh the expectation that everyone should care about you enough to learn your pronouns is baffling to me.

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        Do you feel the same about names?

        Based If yes. If no, cringe.

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      Definitely :( and it’s a super hurtful thing.

      But! of course! that only happens when the offending person knows the pronouns and uses they/them anyway (right side of the flowchart). I see you are already getting downvotes from people who are so riled up they assumed for ya you meant both cases. Ugh.

      Thanks for being normal ❤️