Why is the onus on only one person to both act and intuit criticism from said acting, when the gal never actually says she’s told the guy he is doing anything wrong?
Never said OOP didn’t hold some of the blame for not communicating. It’s a two way street though. You seem to be under the impression this is 100% her fault. I don’t disagree she should be talking to her partner instead of asking online, but to think the guy hasn’t done anything wrong by not asking how their new bedroom activity went is wrong as well. Both of their ideas of roleplay are correct, but it’s not about who’s right and wrong, it’s about working together to make the experience enjoyable. I haven’t seen evidence either party has done that.
Never said OOP didn’t hold some of the blame for not communicating. It’s a two way street though. You seem to be under the impression this is 100% her fault. I don’t disagree she should be talking to her partner instead of asking online, but to think the guy hasn’t done anything wrong by not asking how their new bedroom activity went is wrong as well. Both of their ideas of roleplay are correct, but it’s not about who’s right and wrong, it’s about working together to make the experience enjoyable. I haven’t seen evidence either party has done that.