One of the very few advantages of being neurodivergent is it is unbelievably easy to make sure someone will never want to talk to you again. Just stop making efforts to act “normal”.
I actually love my (diagnosed) ADHD friends who talk for hours and jump from topic to topic. I love listening to people and at least they keep it entertaining.
I like the non diagnosed friends, I just wanted to make it a point, just cause people talk a lot doesn’t mean they have ADHD.
You know it really bothers me that Train obsession is such a hallmark trait of Autism because I was (and still am a little bit) completely obsessed with trains. I had a model train layout, I had train wallpaper, I asked for train things for my birthday, all I ever talked about was all train all the time and not one single adult was ever like “hey maybe this kid who is struggling in school and has no friends and is obsessed with trains is a bit on the spectrum?”.
I turned out more or less fine but I often wonder how much pain and suffering could have been avoided, or at least contextualized, if even one adult in my life was like, “hey wait this isn’t normal for a 10 year old”.
Anyone who wants this kind of combo should read Peter Hamilton’s Commonwealth Saga (Pandora’s Star and Judas Unchained). Literally a society built around a train network connected with wormholes between planets.
You say that, but I remember getting into it with people in college and going back and forth straight into the AM because we couldn’t stop fueling one another.
Couldn’t get enough of that level of socialization. It’s one of the things I miss most about the university experience. Made a lot of really good long term friendships during that time, too.
Oh definitely. My local DSA group has quite a few of them as well.
But it’s a different game when you’re not on campus, surrounded by people your age, spending hours a day in class surrounded by collaborative peers. If I could quit my job and spend all my time on hobbies (and everyone else could, too) I’m sure my dance card would be fuller.
One of the very few advantages of being neurodivergent is it is unbelievably easy to make sure someone will never want to talk to you again. Just stop making efforts to act “normal”.
I actually love my (diagnosed) ADHD friends who talk for hours and jump from topic to topic. I love listening to people and at least they keep it entertaining.
I like the non diagnosed friends, I just wanted to make it a point, just cause people talk a lot doesn’t mean they have ADHD.
I don’t remember how to unmask. 😶
I just talk to them like I talk with my cats, albeit with a few fewer queries about if they’ve been cleaning their ass.
I mask fine sober but throw in a little weed and you’re getting a six hour lesson on black hole holography.
Never heard of black hole holography. What is that?
Black hole, son. Don’t you come.
I’m gonna come.
How do I subscribe?
Does it involve trains in any way, shape or form?
You know it really bothers me that Train obsession is such a hallmark trait of Autism because I was (and still am a little bit) completely obsessed with trains. I had a model train layout, I had train wallpaper, I asked for train things for my birthday, all I ever talked about was all train all the time and not one single adult was ever like “hey maybe this kid who is struggling in school and has no friends and is obsessed with trains is a bit on the spectrum?”.
I turned out more or less fine but I often wonder how much pain and suffering could have been avoided, or at least contextualized, if even one adult in my life was like, “hey wait this isn’t normal for a 10 year old”.
Anyone who wants this kind of combo should read Peter Hamilton’s Commonwealth Saga (Pandora’s Star and Judas Unchained). Literally a society built around a train network connected with wormholes between planets.
I think I would like to hear this six hour lesson, Radioactive Butthole.
I want to hang out with you.
But I’d rather be sober so I can take notes
You say that, but I remember getting into it with people in college and going back and forth straight into the AM because we couldn’t stop fueling one another.
Couldn’t get enough of that level of socialization. It’s one of the things I miss most about the university experience. Made a lot of really good long term friendships during that time, too.
Horrible for hooking up, though.
Are you saying college isn’t a good place to hook up?
Check if you have a local makerspace or hackspace. They tend to attract a similar crowd. My local one is definitely majority neurospicy.
Oh definitely. My local DSA group has quite a few of them as well.
But it’s a different game when you’re not on campus, surrounded by people your age, spending hours a day in class surrounded by collaborative peers. If I could quit my job and spend all my time on hobbies (and everyone else could, too) I’m sure my dance card would be fuller.
I will now proceed to spend the next three hours reciting a sample of the vast amount of useless information I have absorbed from Wikipedia.
yay. (TT_TT)