Fair, but in that case if I get it wrong just let me know. It’s not malicious, just a mistake.
I think the whole leading with your pronouns or having them clearly visible online thing is just a shortcut so it doesn’t take as much time to figure out if the person getting it wrong is making a mistake, or if they’re an asshole.
But I’m also a white cis male, so take it with a big grain of salt. Last time I was misgendered was over the phone pre-puberty.
My experience as a regular here, a trans person myself, and as friends with many trans people is that this is how most people handle this. No reasonable person gets mad at you for using the wrong pronouns even if it hurts their feelings, unless you are doing it on purpose of course. Even people who you’ve told your pronouns to might make an honest mistake at some point. It happens.
Yes, having our pronouns visible is so we don’t have to explicitly tell them to people, and some cis people also use them as a show of solidarity and/or to make it so that phobes can’t assume someone is trans by the presence of pronouns.
I’ve never had angry get angry for making a mistake with their pronouns. I’m shit with names, and it crosses over, so I usually say something like “speaking of my shitty memory, could you also repeat your name?”
Fair, but in that case if I get it wrong just let me know. It’s not malicious, just a mistake.
I think the whole leading with your pronouns or having them clearly visible online thing is just a shortcut so it doesn’t take as much time to figure out if the person getting it wrong is making a mistake, or if they’re an asshole.
But I’m also a white cis male, so take it with a big grain of salt. Last time I was misgendered was over the phone pre-puberty.
My experience as a regular here, a trans person myself, and as friends with many trans people is that this is how most people handle this. No reasonable person gets mad at you for using the wrong pronouns even if it hurts their feelings, unless you are doing it on purpose of course. Even people who you’ve told your pronouns to might make an honest mistake at some point. It happens.
Yes, having our pronouns visible is so we don’t have to explicitly tell them to people, and some cis people also use them as a show of solidarity and/or to make it so that phobes can’t assume someone is trans by the presence of pronouns.
I’ve never had angry get angry for making a mistake with their pronouns. I’m shit with names, and it crosses over, so I usually say something like “speaking of my shitty memory, could you also repeat your name?”