I came across this recently and thought it was a super interesting and thorough examination of “the closet” or “coming out” of it.

  • Sombyr
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    310 months ago

    I’m not sure if gay men have to deal with that more, or if it’s me specifically who’s weird for never having anybody do that to me when I mention my wife.

    The one time anything like that did come up, I was the one who brought it up and the dude was just like “Yeah, I knew you were into women before you even said anything. You’ve just got that vibe.”

    Point is somebody took the door off my closet.

    • @Sekoia
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      410 months ago

      I’ve been told several times “ah yeah I had kinda guessed” as a bi dude. Literally no idea how you could tell, considering I look the same as before I figured myself out.

      • @Honytawk@lemmy.zip
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        510 months ago

        Our environment has those things figured out more quickly than we ourselves.

        They look from the outside in and a closet is easy to spot. But inside the closet it is dark.

      • @OrnateLuna
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        210 months ago

        Tbf you were bi even before you figured it out

        • @Sekoia
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          310 months ago

          I mean yeah but. I am the most standard skinny white dude.

          That said I have literally 0 gaydar so.