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    So a murderer gets replies and I couldn’t even get a match before I gave up, sounds about right lmao

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        Unironically this. Tinder is built in such a way that it makes appearance count far more than it does in almost any other environment. Add to that that there’s a huge disproportion between male and female users. For most people, Tinder is just a miserable experience.

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          I was married before any of these apps became available, so I’ve never experienced them. How do people deal with the Instagram filter effect? I’m assuming everyone is using every filter they can for their profile pictures. So what happens when you actually meet someone in real life without all those filters? Does everyone just flee in terror at the arrival of their date?

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            Yes. That’s pretty much what I would do. Flee.

            It’s a giant waste of time for everyone. It’s honestly horrible and I wish there was a way to seriously penalize people who do that. I’d say >80% of the girls use filter effect. I can’t tell guys since I don’t look at guy profiles. Though, guys would have better effect taking a pic in front of a random Porsche parked on the street and lie about their height than using filters.

            You can tell people are using filters most of the time once you’ve seen enough. Lot of them are pretty obvious. And some of them are completely obvious as it still has the filter’s name literally on the photo.

            I would absolutely prefer to match on below avg girl with real face than hot girl with fake filter face. With real photos, I know what I’m getting into, and found them to be much more down to earth as well.

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              It’s not just the filters, how photogenic you are also has a huge effect there can be a massive difference between what you see on the tinder pics and what’s in real life and it goes both ways, as in it can be much better but also much worse

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            I mean it’s kind of rare, you usually end up snapchatting at some point or whatever, I had a good amount of dates from Tinder and I never felt tricked really as far as I can recall.

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        That is indeed the rule.

        I couldn’t even get conventionally unattractive people to respond lol

        I mean could I be the problem? Sure, I hate myself more than any person that exists or ever has existed lol

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          Sure, I hate myself more than any person that exists or ever has existed lol

          This generally isn’t something you’d open with when seeking a date, but you might attract some hawt goth chicks, so it’ll possibly pay off.

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          Sounds like you’re the sort of person who does well in candid pictures. In order to get a great profile picture, have someone you know take photos of you while you’re having a coffee and a chat with a friend for fifteen minutes or so and try to ignore the camera as much as possible. I definitely look much better candid than posed; I honestly believe that most people do!

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    At the risk of doxing myself, I share a uncommon name with a serial murderer. I’m not a serial murderer. So if you googled me, you can ignore that.

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    She had asked: What is he? A friend or an enemy?"

    The alethiometer answered: He is a murderer."

    When she saw the answer, she relaxed at once. He could find food, and show her how to reach Oxford, and those were powers that were useful, but he might still have been untrustworthy or cowardly. A murderer was a worthy companion. She felt as safe with him as she’d done with Iorek Byrnison the armoured bear"

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      Oh, man, this really makes me want to re-read the entire series again.

      I’ve recently gotten into audiobooks for the first time in my life. I wonder if there’s a quality production of His Dark Materials.

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          Wow, I had no idea! I gotta look into those too. Thanks for the head’s up!

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        The audible version was decent, I reread them all on audiobook ahead of the HBO series and wasn’t wowed but I wasn’t annoyed either. That part in Amber Spyglass still made me cry so that’s a kind of endorsement.

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        Don’t forget the BBC show as well!

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    There are people who actively pursue relationships with convicts while they’re in prison. Nothing about her post is surprising.

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    You passed up a date with NFL MVP holder of the record for the single-season yards-per-game average at 143.1 and a famous actor, OJ Simpson?

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    Some people are into that sort of thing.

    I don’t understand it, but I’m not about to yuck someone’s yum.

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    Bottoms on Grindr would be even more interested after learning this. Or just me?

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    My buddy was named Chuck. It seemed just a little juvenile but he said Mr Manson seemed too posh. Yeah, he came up on internet searches too, and people needed to overlook the results.