• SuddenDownpour@sh.itjust.works
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      Unironically this. Tinder is built in such a way that it makes appearance count far more than it does in almost any other environment. Add to that that there’s a huge disproportion between male and female users. For most people, Tinder is just a miserable experience.

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        I was married before any of these apps became available, so I’ve never experienced them. How do people deal with the Instagram filter effect? I’m assuming everyone is using every filter they can for their profile pictures. So what happens when you actually meet someone in real life without all those filters? Does everyone just flee in terror at the arrival of their date?

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          Yes. That’s pretty much what I would do. Flee.

          It’s a giant waste of time for everyone. It’s honestly horrible and I wish there was a way to seriously penalize people who do that. I’d say >80% of the girls use filter effect. I can’t tell guys since I don’t look at guy profiles. Though, guys would have better effect taking a pic in front of a random Porsche parked on the street and lie about their height than using filters.

          You can tell people are using filters most of the time once you’ve seen enough. Lot of them are pretty obvious. And some of them are completely obvious as it still has the filter’s name literally on the photo.

          I would absolutely prefer to match on below avg girl with real face than hot girl with fake filter face. With real photos, I know what I’m getting into, and found them to be much more down to earth as well.

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            It’s not just the filters, how photogenic you are also has a huge effect there can be a massive difference between what you see on the tinder pics and what’s in real life and it goes both ways, as in it can be much better but also much worse

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          I mean it’s kind of rare, you usually end up snapchatting at some point or whatever, I had a good amount of dates from Tinder and I never felt tricked really as far as I can recall.

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      9 months ago

      That is indeed the rule.

      I couldn’t even get conventionally unattractive people to respond lol

      I mean could I be the problem? Sure, I hate myself more than any person that exists or ever has existed lol

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        Sure, I hate myself more than any person that exists or ever has existed lol

        This generally isn’t something you’d open with when seeking a date, but you might attract some hawt goth chicks, so it’ll possibly pay off.

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        Sounds like you’re the sort of person who does well in candid pictures. In order to get a great profile picture, have someone you know take photos of you while you’re having a coffee and a chat with a friend for fifteen minutes or so and try to ignore the camera as much as possible. I definitely look much better candid than posed; I honestly believe that most people do!