Coming out is scary

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    Transition without saying anything and just gradually start telling people to call you by your new name:

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      Just gaslight everyone.

      “What do you mean? (New Name) is what I’ve gone by my whole life. You must be crazy or something.”

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      Bonus points if you have a unisex name and don’t even change it.

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        See, I do, but I still want to change it.

        At first I was like, “I sure got lucky with the only neutral name of the three.” But now I have a chosen name. (Hardly used, but darn it I think I really like it.)

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        Generated locally on my phone by a small, purpose built neural net trained on work of paid and consenting artists at apple, likely using renewable-powered inference compute. (I charge my phone at night, when a large portion of electricity on my local grid is likely nuclear)

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          hmm… im unsure about all the training data bein exlusively by apple employees n… for som reason thad nuclear energy argument, while valid and reasonable, meks me angri cuz it sounds lik ur indirectli sayin “well if my power source wouldnt we this gud i wouldn’t have generated it”… evn tho i dun actulli think u meant thad.

          ::: evil ramble im… iduno, for som reason dis meks me angri… pls dun take it personlli bt ur commnt made it sound kinda like… ur bein better than others… especialli with thad last section… :::

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    I am tempted to just gaslight everyone around me once I get the girl meds - “what do you mean? I’ve had boobs since I was a teenager, stop being crazy”

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      Yeah I think I have that problem. I’ve had my hair long for ~8 years, am regularly wearing nail polish, I have a long skirt I like to wear around the house and nobody cares. Should just come out already, but that’s scawy

      • The longer its been, the harder it gets to come out. Eventually I decided to wear a bra with shirt that made it kinda obvious I was wearing a bra to bait my parents into starting a conversation I could use as an excuse to bring it up finally.