A good starting point would be normalising questioning it and exploring it, and making it OK at the end to conclude that you are trans or you are cis, but that feels like a long way off

I can see where you’re coming from and I kind of agree, from my perspective - and perhaps many other people’s perspectives - being able to attach a label to myself after some exploration and introspection really helped me get things straight in my head. I felt much better about myself along the way when I was able to say “I’m asexual”, then again when I was able to say “oh shit I’m agender too”. I struggled more with “oh shit I’m transfem too” but that’s partly because of all of the everything going on in the world lately and also because now I’m aware of dysphoria in a way I wasn’t before I put a label on it. Overall, mixed result 🤷‍♀️

I think what we should be aiming at is not clinging rigidly to labels - it should be treated as OK and normal for people to think about their labels and if they still really feel like those labels fit at every point in the process. We treat it as relatively normal for someone to go “I think I’m straight?”, “oh no wait, I think I’m bi?”, “oh wait no, I think I’m gay”, for example, but then we treat that final stage as the final stage, like now you’re gay and it’s set in stone.

I kinda wonder sometimes how many cis people actually are cis and just haven’t had a reason to confront it. Like, I thought I was for a long time so it’s not unreasonable to me that there are probably a lot more trans people than any of us think, they just don’t ever discover it 🤔

This will certainly endear you to the LBZ userbase at this point

And she even said “see ya later boy”

I cannot stress enough how untrustworthy any of you moderators are now, because how do any of us know that in a few days or weeks or months you won’t just randomly close the community and decide you’re moving elsewhere. In short, I really don’t care if you continue to move over, or stay on .world, or do anything else, I don’t want any part of your community anymore. And I don’t see how anyone else would either, but that’s entirely their business

It’s a special kind of hell isn’t it? I’m flip-flopping between “I’ll just suppress it, my dysphoria isn’t too bad” and fatalistic “I’m just gonna fucking do it and fuck everyone who argues 🖕” Current plan is to LARP as a cis guy being very obnoxiously pro-trans, I can at least hopefully make some TERFs uncomfortable that way

Sincerely, I hope the move to .world works out well for you, if only because I really don’t want you to be wandering back over in a few months and picking up moderating the LBZ 196 again. You’ve proved yourself completely untrustworthy to moderate a community in my eyes and it would seem in the eyes of many other people. Good job

I feel that. I came to realise I was transfem earlier last year and I live on TERF Island, so we traded one transphobic government for another one. It’s hard, and I’m still figuring out what I’m going to do about it 🙁

Who could possibly have foreseen that the users of the community wouldn’t like being told that it was closed and they’d have to move? Completely unpredictable behaviour, I’m sure

Basically it’s “vibes”, that’s the only explanation the 196 mods intend to give us

In that case then why even announce anything? Apparently it’s your community and you can do what you like with it, you take your ball and go home. I assume that means you’ll be making and posting all the content there yourself?

I blocked the .world 196 community, safe to say I’m not a fan 🤷‍♀️

Bye then, I won’t be following

Over my life I’ve gone from neutral evil to chaotic evil to chaotic good and now am lawful neutral

Comrades, I’m really starting to think that social media is just bad right across the board

*overstand

Saddam Hussein evolved into Crabbam Hussein

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Fire Hans lol