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What is this “growing up” you talk about?
All my teachers loved me
“I know you’re smart but” was a constant refrain of my school days, usually followed by “but you need to apply yourself”
I was never very funny, funny enough.
[leg shakes table and everyone asks what’s doing that]
I once sat in on a parent/teacher meeting with my brother. The teacher lamented that my brother could be doing so much better if he just applied himself.
He had a 96 in the course. You know how much better he could do if he applied himself? 4%. Doesn’t seem like it would be worth the effort, y’know?
I constantly went head to head with my school’s Spanish teacher because I was bored and she was a bitch. Eventually the principal had a meeting with my mom and said, “look, I know your son is smarter than her, but could you ask him to chill a bit?”
“stop playing with that”
See also: Schrödinger’s neurodivergence.
“What’s wrong with you? Why are you like this?”
“There’s nothing wrong with you, you need to stop making excuses.”
“sounds of mom crying somewhere”
Uuh…yeah that’s not part of growing up with ADHD, at least not universally in any way…and what’s with the bruised legs?
and what’s with the bruised legs?
Tldr: inattentiveness, bumping into tons of stuff, and only remembering it when you look at the bruise or someone reminds you.
An explanation that’s meant to be humorous because it happens to me and my wife all the time:
“Oh my god, where did THIS bruise come from?”
earlier that day
bump “ow, how did I hit the coffee table…”
bump “fuck that hurt, I swear the counter was another 6 inches over”
smash “FUCK the freezer door closes too quickly!”
has to be reminded of these events to remember tham
High pain tolerance with this is borderline dangerous
I once went on a tech support visit to someone’s bosses office, finished what I was doing, left, and the guy escorting me told me my hand was bleeding the entire time.
I am absolutely that oblivious, i didn’t even know what I nicked myself on, didn’t even feel it
I’ve had cuts I didn’t know about, but the worst was when I worked retail and managed to smash my upper arm on a shelf, and apparently I was bleeding bad enough to leave a broken trail from the front of the store to the break room.
I couldn’t feel anything but the aching of the blunt force trauma, I didn’t feel the sharp cut or any stinging at all.
I’ve also had plenty of small spots I have no idea how they happened, but usually I’M the one to figure it out…
This is where im blessed, my body very very rarely bruises so most people have no idea how clumsy I am on a daily basis.
Yeah, some of this stuff is just garden variety ineptitude and/or teenage ungainliness. You can’t lump every inability or struggle into your diagnosis, or it weakens the core truths.
what’s with the bruised legs?
Impulsive adventurousness and bumping into thing.
Aha, I thought it was a reference to getting beaten, partly because of the other comment part I mentioned.
Try having a kid with ADHD sometime. I love mine, but it is also genuinely traumatic sometimes
I do have one, but I haven’t had any experiences that would make me sit down and cry or anything traumatic. He’s a handful (and then some) at times, but definitely more good times than bad ones.
As a former ADHD kid myself (as in, former kid, still ADHD), I would at least worry about how the condition might affect their academic, social, and emotional development. I was an unfortunate Gifted Kid and picked up a lot of knowledge from cartoons (back when cartoons had educational value), but that came with the cost that I never learned discipline, and never learned how to study. I know that my consistently falling test scores confused and devastated my parents.
But all that was two decades ago. I hope that ADHD is more understood now and kids don’t have to remain undiagnosed and untreated.
Everyone’s experiences seem to differ, but I’m glad it’s not this rough for everyone.
Yes, weird with the teacher relationships. A kid from my class, strong on the hyperactive side, was really hated by some teachers. One threatened to beat him up in front of the whole class, another (of the super nice relaxed ones) just threw him out with a book to study on his own in the hallway. I suspect that he never did a single line of homework or studying at home, but his test grades were too good to let him fail.
I don’t have hyperactivity. The best teacher I had really hated me, because he was all about punctuality, reliability, discipline - totally not my approach to math. His teaching was great, I didn’t forget a single lecture to this day, and it allowed me to get all the math course certificates for a STEM field later, although I never finished the degree. A few STEM teaches though realised that my obsession with electronics and programming was really getting somewhere and tried to motivate me to put in the time in related fields, but I never put any work in, and only for computer science was that enough to still ace it.
My own son is even stronger in the extremes. He is barely old enough for his grade, but already has to take math in the grade above. Can’t skip, because his reading & writing is just on par (although in two languages). But he is extremely disruptive. His teachers seem like they understand that he puts in the same mental effort to focus and sit still, just with worse results than the average. And they support my suspicion that he has ADHD and should get tested. Well, will probably take 4 - 6 months to get an appointment, and another 4 - 6 months until there is a diagnosis.
I was the A student then next year I was the F student
“This kid is smart. Let’s put him in the top class.”
[gets put in the top class]
“This kid’s grades are mediocre. Let’s put him in the mediocre class.”
[grades remain mediocre, because it was never ‘challenge’ that was the issue, it was ‘remembering to turn in homework’]
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I had top marks in the year then dropped out
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I freaking hate RLS
so fucking real :(
