Reading. It doesn’t have to be much, but occasionally filling idle moments with a few pages read instead of doom scrolling social media can do wonders. It did for me at least.
Doing this actually got me back into reading. Started with Manhwa (Solo Leveling) and that spiraled into reading books such as Midnight library, Before Coffee Gets Cold, The Words We keep and now “1984”.
Installing an ereader app (ReadEra) helped me so much with this. I always have my phone with me anyways, and tapping the ereader app instead of Instagram takes away so many barriers.
I allways read a bit before going to sleep. It helps with shutting down. My sleep improved a lot
The Libby app with most public libraries is really good!
I need to feel productive. Be it a programming project or woodworking. Just creating something new instead of maintenance like oil changes and mowing the lawn. Creating something new.
Also, take a walk in the forest. Get out on the water. Both are great therapy to disconnect from the mental todo-list of things going on around the house.
Renting a paddleboard and just chilling on a lake on a sunny day. It really is a kind of heaven.
Cooking, it is satisfying enjoying the fruits of your labor and with cooking you can get that satisfaction every day if you choose.
This is not an everyone thing: I for one get no satisfaction from it.
Hard disagree. The process is fun, and everyone loves to eat, but the cleanup is drudgery at its basest form.
Tidy as you go. Don’t see it as a separate task. Tidying up is part of the cooking process.
That’s what I do - I clean as I cook because I’ve got ADHD and I will never conquer a big pile of dirty cookware… clean one at a time so it’s never an imposing task.
Implement the golden rule: cooks don’t clean.
My cats aren’t gonna do the dishes
I prefer to be the one doing the cleaning so I don’t have to feel limited in what or how I cook in order to be considerate to the person cleaning up, otherwise it adds an element of stress I don’t need and an artificial constraint.
totally agree, home cooking from a variety of fresh ingredients is great for your gut and mental health
Cooking can be fun, but it’s also a chore. It means
- finding 14 meals a week (sure you can have the same meal twice, but you still need to prepare that)
- making sure that your mealplan is at least a bit balanced
- groceries
- cooking
- dishes
And you do that every week of your life. I get it that cooking can be fun, but not the everyday cooking you need to do to survive.
I tend to cook larger meals and I’m not opposed to just chucking shit in a slow cooker to make a stew thing. I generally cook (complexly) three times a week. On Sundays we usually make something to last a few days (especially as my partner suffers from migraines) and we keep emergency meal stuff around like sausages to pan fry for a simple dinner.
I, personally, don’t really count pan frying some frozen perogies, eggs, or sausage as a “hobby” cook - that’s just ten minutes on auto pilot to achieve sustenance… so I guess my personal suggestion for fun cookery is to start with one big meal a week and step up from there as you’re comfortable. There are plenty of great recipes that you can cook a bunch of then enjoy over the next few days.
I’m a huge advocate of gardening. It gets you outdoors and active, gives a sense of achievement, you learn and improve over time, it’s popular enough that you can get involved in a community, if you’re growing veg it promotes healthy eating.
It should be mandatory.
You… sound like my mother. She’s an incredible woman, but christ, no I’m not gonna go climb a tree right now and chop off the top branches, I’m in the middle of a Minetest marathon
House plants bro. It’s a game where the goal is not killing them.
I have a bamboo plant that seems to thrive on my neglect
Succulents are the answer! They thrive on neglect and look so cool and alien. I love them.
I know you didn’t really mean it literally but just to reiterate as others have done for other suggestions in this thread, this is very much an “if it works for you” sort of thing and definitely shouldn’t be mandatory. I fucking hate gardening with a passion, I want absolutely nothing to do with it, though it’s clearly very beneficial to others.
Yoga/mobility/flexibility of some sort. Counteract the repetitive, static positions many of us hold during work hours.
Plus that post class bliss is absolutely wonderful! I love yoga in its many forms.
Weightlifting has done wonders for mine. I don’t even go super hard with it, just an adjustable dumbell set and bench at home a few times a week.
How is training routine like?
If you have any recommendations or suggestions for a beginner, could you please share them?
https://old.reddit.com/r/Fitness/comments/2e79y4/dumbbell_ppl_proposed_alternative_to_dumbbell/
This is pretty close to what I started with. Starting out focus on getting your form correct and staying consistent over pushing tons of weight.
Thank you
talking to people. friends, strangers, idc. people seem too stiff these days and i think it keeps people lonely.
Cooking and working out. Proper nutrition and taking care of your body make a huge difference, along with reading.
It depends a lot on the person, but it always does me good to do something tactile after working all day on a computer. Cooking, baking, sketching, woodworking, Legos, hiking, that kind of thing. I’ve noticed it really helps me ground and be mindful.
Daily walks are so simple but getting out does wonders
I’d say anything creative, something which pushes the mind to focus on generating new ideas instead of just running through the same old ones - this worked for me, at least, as rumination and catastrophising have been stapled to my noggin my entire life.
To be more specific, painting, building stuff with Legos, drawing, writing poetry, composing songs, whittling, woodworking, stuff like that.
Another important aspect (at least from personal experience, ymmv) is keeping the hobby a hobby - what I mean by this is not falling into the trap of perfectionism or productivity with it, keeping it light and fun. I now strongly believe that the brain needs something “inconsequential” on which to chew if only to remind it that not every stimulus it receives is do-or-die.
Keep a hobby a hobby, yes! Don’t try and monetize it! You will kill all the joy you once felt for that hobby.
Whatever hobby you enjoy, avoid its online community as much as possible. It’s a great way to see negativity and arguing, which we all know constant negativity and discourse is fantastic for our collective mental health.
It’s also a good way to never actually getting the ball rolling on a new hobby, and instead obsessively research what the “correct” way of doing xyz is and then be too overwhelmed by all the opinions to actually get started yourself.
Not for everything! I find that hobbies which are based around nature tends to have very welcoming and helpful communities online. Gardening, bird watching, hydroponics, that sort of thing.
Disc golf is the sport for nerdy kids who never liked sports. And even if you’re absolutely terrible, you get to take a nice walk in the park or the woods. Most courses are free to play, and you really only need one disc to have a good time. Strongly recommend for those who know they aren’t active enough but have no interest in going to the gym.
You gotta be careful though. My best friend tried to take a girl out on a discgolf date once. She said "no thanks discgolf is a gateway drug to marijuana. " and she might be right.
If you’re interested in that, it will probably be available, yeah.
But if you’re not, there are plenty of non-stoners who play too.
Lets all try beekeeping, it will teach you to:
- look
- observe
- think
- take your time
- gets you out doors
- and gets food for the table
I would love to try, seems like a pretty hefty investment to get involved though.
You could do like I’ve done–raise native bees. I don’t know where you are, but in my area, mason bees and leafcutter bees are both native, solitary species. This means that they don’t create hives but rather nest in holes/tubes. There’s no queen. No honey. Very little work compared to keeping honeybees and better for the environment (assuming honeybees are not native to your area).
As a bonus, if you grow any plants, they make great pollinators. And when you first get the bees and they emerge from their cocoons, they are tiny and adorable and a joy to watch. They’re also very passive and almost never sting.
Making the absolute best possible pizza you can, it’s an obsession and sometimes it’s actively stressful which you’d think would be bad for mental health but it’s just the right level of stress and frustration and reward and relaxation and well, pizza, that it’s something that the more I get in to it the more even the most unnecessary extra effort to get only the slightest improvement of the texture or the taste will seem worth it. I also really love trying to emulate ones that I’ve had and loved so there’s kind of an end goal in so far as I can test if I think I’ve replicated or exceeded a standard I’ve set from my favourite pizza place. Doing it this way also opens you up to all the different existing styles you can try and then try to recreate. You could also invent your own if you’re creative enough. You can spend big on fun equipment but you don’t even have to because part of the fun is figuring out the smartest ways to achieve similarity of results with the resources at your disposal. I like making lots of notes to try something subtly different next time.
Whatever else is going on, I’m always in that zone when making pizza. The only problem with it is that it’s a bit impractical. The best pizza tends to be at least a 24 hour long affair with dough made in the morning ready for that night so when you’re super busy at work it’s not easy to fit a good pizza day in there with all the effort and mess involved but when you can, all feels right with the world.
