This is really messed up considering that many instances out there aren’t affiliated with Lemmy.ml and might even defed from them.

Also before someone comes in here whining that they shouldn’t use lemmy, fuck off. This is Open-Source software. No one has any obligation to affiliate with or even support the devs by using it. You should also realize that “Migrating to new software” means starting a brand new instance, as the DB and User registrations are not compatible.

Instance owners can’t just rip out Lemmy, shove in Mbin and call it a day, sadly it’s not that simple.

That was really my whole point, since the databases aren’t compatible. A switch from Lemmy to something else would reboot the instance completely. But also it’s not necessary for instances that aren’t lemmy.ml. Maybe some instances out there are loyal to .ml but that doesn’t mean all of them are. This one certainly isn’t and neither is my main one dbzer0.

I’m not saying people must move away from Lemmy but I do want to remind people that Lemmy is not the only option and that moving from Lemmy to something else in the fediverse won’t be as painful as moving from Reddit to Lemmy.

That’s good, I see a surprising amount of people saying that users and instance owners should switch to piefed or mbin over this as a form of “boycott” which I think is dumb because we don’t have any onligation to give money to the devs, to support them, or even to federate with them. This instance banned nutomic for his transphobic rhetoric, and quokk.au defederates all of .ml as a whole.

I saw this earlier in !meanwhileongrad@sh.itjust.works and it’s pretty bad. I’m in favor of defederation, at the very least to help cut some of .ml’s network effect on the Fediverse. Since many of their communities are insanely large and they’re also very well known for banning people for let’s just say less than justified reasons. Nutomic’s transphobia is really the last straw in my opinion. If people are interested in looking for alternative to popular .ml communities, !de_ml@lemmy.blahaj.zone is a good place to look.

I don’t think anyone needs to stop using or break away from Lemmy like people say. Lemmy is open-source and can easily be forked. Lemmy’s devs don’t have the authority to deny people from using Lemmy either. Instances operate independent of them, and since many instances are already here and using Lemmy, switching to something completely different and incompatible would be extremely damaging.

If instances aren’t willing to moderate themselves when it comes to transphobia they should get the boot. I hope more instances defederate feddit.uk over this. Might make them change course and rethink if they should maybe moderate better.

Late reply, these people are just complaining they were banned for being assholes and that this space doesn’t let thinly veiled bigotry and gatekeeping slide like many places do. I don’t think we need clearly defined rules for people to try and look for loopholes, there aren’t any loopholes to not being an asshole and not being a bigot, you can either be a bigot or not be one. Introducing a list of rules just makes it easier for people to look for loopholes and claim that they were banned unfairly. Better to not give them any benefit.

These people can fuck off, how is it anyone else’s business if someone else doesn’t want to have sex with and isn’t sexually attracted to other people? Like for real, other people’s sex lives or lack there of is not any of your business. So this rhetoric that asexuality should be cured, or talking about them “finding the right person” shouldn’t even be a thing.

@ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone You might want to deal with this on your end too, this doesn’t seem like the kind of person we want in our communities on blahaj.zone.

Well considering this instance does block Hexbear, they probably don’t want to leave it up to chance like that. Which is why I’m letting them know.

Static IPs you have to pay for them though if I’m not mistaken. They can get new ones but it would cost them.

Really hoping they do. This could go very badly if they switch to the new domain and all the servers who defederated them are now suddenly federated again.

It would be good if Lemmy had an option to do it by IP as well, though I guess one already can by using their server’s firewall to block all traffic to that IP on the Lemmy server.

Ok I’ve added you, welcome to the team (I weirdly wasn’t able to comment immediately after adding you).

Admin ping to bring awareness of this situation.

CC: @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone @supakaity@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Oh yeah, that definitely makes sense.

Yeah Lemmy is awesome. By the way do you also want to be a mod as well?

Alright I have added you as a mod here.

Old News, SDF admin resolved the problem and purged every one of his shithole communities.

Is this similar to Therians or otherkin, where people feel like they identify more with an animal or mythical creature? I mean I’ve heard some therians or otherkins do experience species dysphoria, so is that similar?

Maybe we should have one like that here for specifically queer related and queer friendly groups, since exposure on this instance would greatly help those groups out.

Well it’s not like this community is a private community only for asexual people, it is an asexual space for ace people, but it’s also largely public and anyone can come here and see these posts.

That said I probably should post this elsewhere so other people can see it better (also will help more people find this community).

CC: @Theroddd@lemmy.ml

Ah I understand what you were saying now, I wasn’t sure exactly and it reminded me of the “Agender Pronouns” thing, glad you didn’t mean it that way though.

There are other problems I’ve had with Hexbear, I’ve actually been threatened and harassed by several users on that platform, I’ve also gotten some bad vibes in a few communities there that didn’t really make me feel welcome, as a GNC person or as an Agender person. It’s hard to describe, it just didn’t quite feel right.

But yeah I do hope the user flairs get added to Lemmy at some point, it would be nice to have some of the helpful features from Reddit, like User flairs, and either post flairs or post tags (post tags are probably better since they can federate as hashtags).