Ada, by far, has the most moderation experience and level head of the both of us.
If I was moderating this place it’d be a barren wasteland with salted and scorched earth as far as the eyes can see and a list of rules as long as your arm which keeps getting longer every time you look as I try to keep up with the rules lawyers.
When we first setup Blåhaj Zone with Ada, we discussed exactly this scenario and Ada said that you’ll never create a set of rules that are comprehensive enough to defeat those that are intent on being horrible human beings and trying to make a safe space for queer and gender diverse people unsafe. And instead of keeping the space safe you’ll spend all your time and effort refining and defending the intricacies of the rules.
Instead of doing that, we want a safe space, so the guiding principle is don’t make it unsafe.
Obviously some people need more clarification on what safety means to us, but really if you need more than what we have provided to “get it”, then you are the kind of person who would make it unsafe just by being present.
Most decent human beings can grok “be kind and respect each other” as a set square.
@ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone does a fantastic job of moderating, and it constantly amazes me that she manages to keep her cool (and calms me down when I get riled up too!).
Thanks for being the moderator to my sysadmin, babe. I couldn’t do it without you.