• LovableSidekick@lemmy.world
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    16 days ago

    This subject got me curious so I read up on dueling. Apparently in the sword era most duels were to “first blood” not to the death, and even after pistols became the preferred weapon the object wasn’t to kill an opponent or even to win. It was more important to demonstrate courage by showing up. Both parties upheld their honor simply by going through with it. Most deaths that occurred were from infections, not from the wound itself being fatal. It was also common and acceptable to try to avoid a duel through negotiation or an apology.

    What OP meant by petty disagreements is unclear, but duel challenges were often made over matters of honor. Some of the issues might seem petty to us today, but in the dueling community reputation and image were vital social currency. For a rough comparison consider modern celebrities losing fans and jobs because of bad tweets (or even for liking the wrong tweet).

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      15 days ago

      The challenge: demand satisfaction. If they apologize, no need for further action.

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      15 days ago

      Are you really defending the concept of dueling for honor?

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      In some cultures dueling scars were also considered manly so a lot of those duels were mutually agreed on in advance with both participants really just trying to give eachother cool dueling scars in the hopes of seeming more attractive.

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      It’s always the most insecure looking dudes who take their profile pics with sunglasses on in the front seat of their Dodge Ram, or mildly muscular/tattooed guys who have taken 50+ successive shirtless selfies, smirking in front of a mirror. It’s even funnier when you note how many times they went back through their old pics and re-posted the previous ones.

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    It’s an interesting comparison because it seems to me dueling comes from times and places where personal reputation was much more important to life destiny than now due to a lack of protective legal and other institutional infrastructure that dampens the risks in living and working with strangers.

    So maybe any rising sensitivity in the present is due to the feeling that this infrastructure is weakened.

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    i think if someone spilling the “people didn’t used to be so offended…” agenda, that basically means they were bullied into being jerks

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      People who think that being an asshole is socially acceptable are people who were raised in environments where assholes never experienced consequences for their behavior. Basically, they had asshole friends and family, become assholes themselves, and now can’t fathom a person who isn’t a foul-mouthed jackass.

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    At the same time men in the past had a thicker skin then “men” today, they could (and did) crossdress while still being confident in themselves as straight men (Specifically common in the military). Today “men” will see someone wearing a pink shirt and get pissed at them for “trying to make them gay”.

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      The people you described as “today men” existed back then, too. We just didn’t hear about it, because it was acceptable and the status quo.

      It was much more normal and acceptable to be homophobic back then. You hear about it more nowadays, because times have changed and homophobia is actually being seen for the disgusting trait that it is. The majority of people actually call it out nowadays, but they didn’t back then.