• Thebeardedsinglemalt@lemmy.world
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    23 hours ago

    They need good role models like their parents who take them to a local brewery and shove an iPad in their face then ignore them while the parents drink craft beer.

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      9 hours ago

      I wonder if my perception is fucked or what i have to think about these things. I was once on a date in a restaurant and next to us was a family of 5 and the youngest was maybe 7 and he played Fortnite on an ipad most of the time. My date pointed this out as “rude” and “bad parenting” and i agreed. But it made me thinking. I think i had pretty good parents, and they dragged me and my sister to a lot of places i didn’t want to be. But i was pretty happy as long as i could bring my gameboy. The boy was 7 of course he didn’t want to sit in a restaurant and do conversation with adults.

      Now my sister has two children that are 7 and 5 and my perception has changed again. It’s absolutely scary how addicted kids are to phones. It’s like watching crack addicts. They aren’t even allowed on the phone a lot, but the things they would do to not even do anything interesting, and just press buttons and play the worst mobile games and watch the worst youtube videos ever created.

      I liked games on my gameboy, and later game gear, but i never liked any game as much as my nephew likes to watch a minecraft video on youtube in a language he doesn’t speak (and he never played minecraft.) it’s truly bizarre, and because he only likes to watch these dumb ass videos and is only allowed to watch a short goodnight story every night if he behaves, he can’t even watch a movie. The concept of something bad happens to a main character blows his mind so much that he never wants to watch a movie with me, and would rather watch elsa getting impregnated by spiderman. He loves the movie cars, and when i showed him cars 3, he couldn’t understand how lightning mcqueen would not win at some point.

      • RobertoOberto@sh.itjust.works
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        8 hours ago

        my sister has two children that are 7 and 5…
        …and would rather watch elsa getting impregnated by spiderman.

        Who is showing the kid R34 animations?

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        8 hours ago

        Oh is definitely an addiction and it seems that’s what modern parenting has become. I definitely remember being bored AF when my parents dragged me to places and am I could do was sit around while they enjoyed their time, but they also had the care to get a babysitter for a couple hours so they didn’t have to drag us around.

        Nowadays it just seems everywhere I go there’s always 2 under-7 kids with their noses buried in a phone or iPad blasting loudly in a public place, and their parents ignoring them while they scream and run around.

        I had a coworker who would routinely bring their 4 & 6 yr old to a local dive bar while their band plays at 10pm. Both only paying attention to their devices

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      1 day ago

      Parenting (and childhood) is intense and unrelenting. You can’t expect parents to be on stage continuously and continue to be patient and kind. You also can’t expect a 7 year old to be happy listening to their parents talk about work for 45 minutes. Taking breaks or responsibly drinking a beer is perfectly fine and isn’t going to negatively impact the child any more than allowing them to watch some age appropriate media for the time before they eat.

      • celsiustimeline@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        9 hours ago

        I expect parents to have a certain degree of knowledge about the things they give their children. Study after study has shown that unfettered access to smart devices has a negative effect on a child’s psychological development (who knew the secret advertising/manipulation machine would be bad for a child’s brain?! Only anyone with a working brain of their own!) It’s literally better to just plop your kid in front of a traditional television.

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        15 hours ago

        totally agree that parents need a break and a good drink. hell it is exhausting. but please avoid just putting them Infront of a screen. get the grandparents to look after them, let them sleep over at a friend’s house, organise a nanny. as a society we are already too often starring at screens.

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      1 day ago

      Well, its that or they might end up with a family who holds freakish anti-social views like “Love is Love” and “Let kids play dress up, they’re not hurting anyone”.