• livus@kbin.social
    194·
    9 months ago

    I remember being young and thinking middle-aged people are staring at me because they want me /they disapprove/whatever.

    Now I’m middle aged myself, I know the staring is way more likely to either be something along the lines of “ah that kid is so 90s, I never had that green colour but blue Fudge used to wash out to green like that…”

    Or “have we run out of natural yoghurt, we bought that 500ml pottle last week but we had curry twice, maybe I should get some more…”

    • TexasDrunk@lemmy.world
      73·
      9 months ago

      Or “have we run out of natural yoghurt, we bought that 500ml pottle last week but we had curry twice, maybe I should get some more…”

      This is me. I have to really watch where I’m zoning out because I have absolutely been called out for staring when my brain was miles away.

      • A_Very_Big_Fan@lemmy.worldMEnglish
        3·
        8 months ago

        I did this once in freshman year HS. I was sitting on my friend’s desk zoned out staring at a book on someone else’s desk, and I came out of it when a girl said “THOSE ARE BOOBS”

        Idk how long I was staring, but I was still kinda pissed because she was just standing in front of me for no discernable reason.

    • macrocarpa@lemmy.world
      64·
      9 months ago

      “OK so she must’ve bleached the full head then done the green side first, then the black side. Man her scalp must be itchy as fuck. What did I used to use to stop the burn? Coconut oil? Yeah that’s right. Smelt like Malibu for a week or so, and had to throw out that set of pillow cases. Man that sucks, I loved those pillow cases, perfect for winter. I wonder if you can still get them?”

      • livus@kbin.social
        18·
        9 months ago

        Morpheus: “… and find out just how deep the rabbit hole goes.” Only it’s more like an interconnected maze of rabbit holes leading everywhere. I wonder if you can still get “pina colada” Malibu?

        Theoretically she could part her hair with a knife and bleach the green side, wait 20 min and put the black side on with a toothbrush, then wash it and add the green as required?

        I love how Gen Z has gone back to all that stuff.

          • livus@kbin.social
            2·
            8 months ago

            There’s probably fancy metal hairdressing combs that would do it, but the “prow” of a normal comb is too blunt to separate the hair perfectly. You end up with strands from the left on the right etc.

            The old DIY trick is to turn a sharp-pointed knife upside down so that the blade doesn’t face the scalp, and then use the point to gently part the hair. That’s how you get a perfect straight parting.

      • Another CatgirlEnglish
        5·
        9 months ago

        I’ve gotten multicolor hairdo once. The darker colors don’t need bleach at all, just put black over natural.

        If you separate your hair strands properly you can apply both dyes at the same time in one session, minimal crossbleeding.

    • hordenduopol@lemmy.world
      16·
      9 months ago

      I’m still wondering how the 90s entered kids garderobes again overnight. Sometimes I see a very funny xxxxxxxxwide jeans and I talk about that with my kids in the car and yes I do stare a bit with curiosity and amusement.

      • livus@kbin.social
        20·
        9 months ago

        Fashion goes in cycles. Personally I’m just waiting for the nice wide jeans to filter down to an affordable price point and then I’m going to get some for myself.

        I hate skinny jeans. They feel cloying and I’m pretty sure they promote swamp crotch.

        • nomous@lemmy.world
          1·
          8 months ago

          As I’ve aged and having been around for both fads I feel like a waist that fits but with very roomy legs is probably the most comfortable.

        • 5in1k@lemm.ee
          1·
          8 months ago

          Even non skinny jeans got tight. I have really old Dickies pants and newer ones the same size. The legs are thinner and less comfortable, I buy 2-4 sizes up so my legs can move about at work.

          • livus@kbin.social
            2·
            8 months ago

            It sort of felt like capitalism was embracing the skinny leg trend and that’s how it became so ubiquitous even outside of fashion. Same price, less fabric.

      • oatscoop@midwest.socialEnglish
        2·
        8 months ago

        I know this Is an old post, but in the early 2000s 70’s fashion came back in vogue – a 30 years difference. And 30 years ago from today is the 90s, so it makes sense.

        I think it’s a result of the 40 year old crowd. They’re a demographic with money and starting to get nostalgic for their childhood, so the market caters to that . Kids get exposed to it, a few trend setters decide it’s cool/vintage, and it takes off from there.

  • ZephrC@lemm.ee
    122·
    9 months ago

    Jokes on you then. I’m probably staring because I’m trying to figure out what’s going on with that eye makeup, and I have no idea what that face is supposed to mean.

  • fprawn@lemmy.worldEnglish
    121·
    9 months ago

    Middle aged men today? They’re millennials and that’s called a 1000 yard stare.

    You’ll understand soon.

  • slacktoid@lemmy.mlEnglish
    67·
    9 months ago

    Plot twist: they are into that and see that as a yes

    (that as in what they are doing to repeal the middle aged man)

  • Uriel238 [all pronouns]
    59·
    9 months ago

    Yeah, if I’m staring at you, it means a) I’m thinking about what I’m cooking at home, or balancing HOR production with HOR-to-fuel conversion in Satisfactory and b) my eyes are so bad (I haven’t had prescription glasses for years now) that you’re a blur of colors.

    That said, I wonder if she likes board games.

  • Shou@lemmy.world
    57·
    9 months ago

    There is a difference between a guy staring into the void, and an older guy checking you out. I’ve experienced both and I don’t understand how people manage to confuse the two.

    • Yerbouti@lemmy.ml
      15·
      8 months ago

      One day, about 10 years ago, a guy pull out a knife to fight me in a subway station because he thought I was staring at him. Also got some nasty comments from women who thought I was looking at them when I didn’t even notice their presence. Now I try to look at the floor in public in case I get lost in my mind.

      • Shou@lemmy.world
        6·
        8 months ago

        Fuck that’s horrible. Yeah. I made eye contact with a guy that lasted too long. We were walking towards each other. He grabbed the back of my head and pushed it down. Wasn’t as scary as it sounds. Just disrespectful. I avoid eye contact too. Some people are just evil.

    • Sombyr@lemmy.zip
      8·
      8 months ago

      It is in fact really easy to tell the difference, you just hear more about the times people make the mistake because it’s not noteworthy when somebody goes “that guy’s just staring off into space” and is right. You also likely have a bigger emotional reaction, assuming you’re a guy, to a woman mistakenly thinking a guy is staring at her and being wrong than you do the knowledge that women get stared at a lot, so it makes the first seem like it’s happening more often.
      I’ve lived on both sides (trans) and can tell you I didn’t realize it was this common to get really obviously stared at by older men. And the older they are the more likely they are to do it, which is lucky, because I’m much less afraid of a 70 year old man doing anything to me than a 20-40 year old. I find the only thing I can do in that situation is to avoid looking them directly in the eyes, because they take that as a sign to approach.

      • Shou@lemmy.world
        6·
        8 months ago

        Am a woman. And sorry to hear about your bad experiences. Guess it comes with the territory huh? Older men sure know how to be creeps. And older women too. Cougars are predators after all.

        • Sombyr@lemmy.zip
          5·
          8 months ago

          Agreed. And older women being creeps too needs to be talked about more. Pretransition, in 7th grade, I had a math teacher who tried to flirt with me and it made me horribly uncomfortable, but I could never talk to anybody about it because people would act like that was a good thing and I should feel good for it, and those who acknowledged it was a problem still told me I must have imagined it. I can say one good thing about being a woman is despite encountering creeps way more often, at least I’m allowed to be upset about it now.

          • Shou@lemmy.world
            4·
            8 months ago

            That’s fucking disgusting. She wasn’t just a creep, but a straight up peado.

  • bradorsomething@ttrpg.network
    56·
    9 months ago

    I’ve got to admit, a girl makes that face at me, I’m going to walk up and start explaining the plot of Krull (1983) for as long as she can hold it. If she makes it through the whole thing I’m pretty sure we’re legally married.

    • Gmork@lemmy.ml
      10·
      9 months ago

      This is the most random thing I’ve heard in a while. 🤣 I love it!

      As a lifelong fan of the movie, I approve of this tactic.

  • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
    38·
    9 months ago

    Half the time I have no idea what I am staring at. It’s like having closed eyes, but they’re open. It’s my autopilot staring, not me.

    On a side note, that lip piercing (just like any other piercing in mouth) may cause tooth damage and/or gum recession over time. It’s a bad idea.

    • Zoop@beehaw.org
      6·
      9 months ago

      that lip piercing (just like any other piercing in mouth) may cause tooth damage and/or gum recession over time. It’s a bad idea.

      Nope, nope, nope. Incorrect. Vertical labrets, which this person in the picture has, do not go into your mouth at all. It goes vertically straight up through your lip. No part of it is ever inside your mouth.

      I feel you on the autopilot eyes, though!

      • 5in1k@lemm.ee
        1·
        8 months ago

        The piercing that’s sitting 2mm from her front teeth in the photo will never collide with them? Yeah ok chief, I do have eyes here. I’m sure she never chews on that conveniently place fidgeter.

  • imPastaSyndrome@lemm.ee
    36·
    9 months ago

    Maybe don’t look so cool like the girl I want to be if you don’t want to be stared at.

    Cool hair…sorry

  • nifty@lemmy.world
    24·
    9 months ago

    I am middle age! I get stares from college kids haha, I look younger than I am. I don’t care who looks, and I am too autistic to stare at others 🤷‍♀️

  • Dra@lemmy.zip
    23·
    8 months ago

    The narcissism on so many levels is such an adorable aspect of this generation

    • cerulean_blue@lemmy.ml
      14·
      8 months ago

      The narcissism on so many levels is such an adorable aspect of this every generation

      Same thing happened in : 90s with Goths, 80s with New Wave , 70s with gender fluid androgyny, 60s with hippies, 50s with rock and roll… 20s with flapper girls.

    • RageAgainstTheRich@lemmy.world
      17·
      8 months ago

      Yeah its like they don’t understand the difference between just looking at someone that has a cool haircut and someone creep staring at you to where you feel unsafe.

      I don’t want people staring at me like I’m a zoo animal. Bur apparently people in the comments here don’t understand that.

      • Hule@lemmy.world
        4·
        8 months ago

        I mean, cockatiels can be seen in a zoo.

        If you look like one, people will stare…