I encountered someone saying, “I have no problems with a person’s sexual orientation and choice, I have a problem with anyone being openly sexual or flaunting their sexuality in front of me regardless of their choice of orientation.”
I am a card carrying atheist. I was raised in one of the worst fundamental christian extremist groups and now live in near isolation from abandoning it nearly 10 years ago. All sexuality was bottled in my life and surroundings. This is still my comfort zone. A part of me wants to hold on to a similar ethos as the person I mentioned above, but I feel like I’m not very confident it is the right inner philosophical balance either.
I’m partially disabled now, so this is almost completely hypothetical. I am honestly looking to grow in my understanding of personal space and inner morality as it relates to others. Someone enlighten me please. Where does this go, what does it mean to you?
Why? Like, get to the root of it, why does that bother you, except that it’s something that you’ve been taught to be uncomfortable.
For example, kissing involves bodily fluids and sometimes mutual oral penetration. Yet it’s not thought if in any way like sex, despite the mechanics being comparable.
If it’s a man and a woman, or two men, or two women, the mechanics are the same, but again, people will react differently.
The only reason for that difference is cultural.
Some people are fine with kissing in public, but not groping. Some people aren’t fine with either. And some people are fine with public sex.
Two people seeing the same thing react differently, not because they’re seeing different things, but because they’ve been taught to react differently.
If you’re happy and uncomfortable with the norms you’ve been taught, it’s the easiest thing in the world to just roll with them, but if you want to change them, it’s possible to teach yourself new norms. It may not be quick, but you can do it if you want to :)