If she likes you and your height is a problem, she didn’t actually like you
Obviously. It’s just frustrating that being short is a dealbreaker for so many women. Even women who are significantly shorter than 5’5.5" will often refuse to consider a guy of that height.
So, a short guy will never even get to the stage where “she likes you” is even a consideration, because the height filter rules them out of contention. Personality, fitness, sense of humour, etc. are all irrelevant because your parents happened to be short.
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I seriously did not know this was an issue until I saw it being talked about on online forums.
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Yes, and there have been “plenty” of short NBA players too. That doesn’t change the fact that height is a massive advantage.
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That’s nice, but you’re pretending it’s not a real problem when it is a real problem.
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Yes, and there are a few NBA players who are under 5’5", but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a huge advantage to being tall.
if you think being short is hard, try being ugly.
I do feel for the folks working against both.
At least with ugliness, it’s easy to understand the problem.
gee thanks
That’s not true. It’s just one factor. Most of the men in the world are 5’5" poor dudes. It’s not money or height.
It’s one critical factor that, because it’s a number is easy to use as a filter.
I don’t know about “most of the men in the world” being 5’5". It may be an average if you count a lot of developing countries with poor nutrition. But, among developed countries it’s a lot more than that. Even Japan, which is known for smaller people, has 172 cm (5’7.5") as the average.
The average person lives in a developing country with poor nutrition.
And?
Yeah and undoubtedly that sucks
Shouldn’t have added the .5.
Saying the extra half inch makes you look desperate, just say 5’5" or 5’6" and if she gets awkward, it’s on her
Can someone explain this “trend” with asking someone’s height and it being an elimination factor?
Because this is the equivalent to the “big boobs” factor but only more obvious.
Some women don’t want to date men who are shorter than them (and vice versa). Just like some men wouldn’t want to date women with smaller boobs than them.
I feel like one of those is much more common though
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I do think the height thing is almost biological due to how common it is, even across cultures.
The overemphasis on numbers, not so much.
And me complaining my times were filled with shallow people.
Dodged a bullet
why not just answer in metric? baffle mode
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Just wondering, where would I go in real life? I can’t really go to the bar, and the thought of approaching someone in like, a cafe, is horrifying (I’m trans so super worried about being seen as a creep)
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See if you can find LGBT meet up groups if your area. Don’t approach them looking for dates, go just to meet new people and make new friends. Swap contact details, go to events and gatherings with em. Go bowling, play pool, find arcades, go to shows, conventions, try new restaurants, go hiking, go fishing, that sorta thing. You’ll make new friends and that’ll be fulfilling in its own right and some of those friendships may become something more than that.
Edit: This is largely great advice for straight, cis people, too. Buuuut find a different meet up group or skip it and just go to the events and make friends. You can usually start up a conversation just by sitting at a bar and having a few drinks.
Also: for the topic, the height thing is BS. Sure, some people will disregard you because of your height, but some people are assholes. Many, arguably most, aren’t. I’m 5’5" and I’ve never been single unless I wanted to be since the age of about 15.
sometimes it’s not even about the confidence. sometimes people fuck, sometimes people marry, (sometimes people kill? idk) and it wasn’t related to any particular thing.
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Everyone who is taller than 5’8" rounds up to 6’ so I always just round up to 5’8"
Everyone who is taller than 5’8" rounds up to 6’
Especially those who are taller than 6’
I mean it doesn’t stop Charlie White from being a damn sex machine. Own your body, don’t let it own you. Short? Who’s short? I’m not 5 and a half feet short, I’m 5 and a half feet tall baby
