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      Obviously. It’s just frustrating that being short is a dealbreaker for so many women. Even women who are significantly shorter than 5’5.5" will often refuse to consider a guy of that height.

      So, a short guy will never even get to the stage where “she likes you” is even a consideration, because the height filter rules them out of contention. Personality, fitness, sense of humour, etc. are all irrelevant because your parents happened to be short.

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    Can someone explain this “trend” with asking someone’s height and it being an elimination factor?

    Because this is the equivalent to the “big boobs” factor but only more obvious.

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      Just wondering, where would I go in real life? I can’t really go to the bar, and the thought of approaching someone in like, a cafe, is horrifying (I’m trans so super worried about being seen as a creep)

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        See if you can find LGBT meet up groups if your area. Don’t approach them looking for dates, go just to meet new people and make new friends. Swap contact details, go to events and gatherings with em. Go bowling, play pool, find arcades, go to shows, conventions, try new restaurants, go hiking, go fishing, that sorta thing. You’ll make new friends and that’ll be fulfilling in its own right and some of those friendships may become something more than that.

        Edit: This is largely great advice for straight, cis people, too. Buuuut find a different meet up group or skip it and just go to the events and make friends. You can usually start up a conversation just by sitting at a bar and having a few drinks.

        Also: for the topic, the height thing is BS. Sure, some people will disregard you because of your height, but some people are assholes. Many, arguably most, aren’t. I’m 5’5" and I’ve never been single unless I wanted to be since the age of about 15.

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      sometimes it’s not even about the confidence. sometimes people fuck, sometimes people marry, (sometimes people kill? idk) and it wasn’t related to any particular thing.

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    I mean it doesn’t stop Charlie White from being a damn sex machine. Own your body, don’t let it own you. Short? Who’s short? I’m not 5 and a half feet short, I’m 5 and a half feet tall baby