Am I happy? I certainly feel more complete since I figured things out. I don’t know though, it’s almost like asking if I’m happy I’m right handed or have curly hair. Being pan is just part of me, and it’s a part I embrace. I think when people talk about pride, what resonates to me is more “the complete absence of shame” rather than the feeling I get for accomplishing something. Happiness feels similar to me.
i agree a lot with this. maybe it’s because i don’t feel like i had a lot of figuring things out with being bi? like, i just sort of was like “hmm i think i like girls” one day when i was younger, and now it’s no big deal. i’m happy for other people who consider it a larger part of their identity, but i haven’t felt that way in a very long time personally.
Am I happy? I certainly feel more complete since I figured things out. I don’t know though, it’s almost like asking if I’m happy I’m right handed or have curly hair. Being pan is just part of me, and it’s a part I embrace. I think when people talk about pride, what resonates to me is more “the complete absence of shame” rather than the feeling I get for accomplishing something. Happiness feels similar to me.
+1 for “pride is the complete absence of shame”
i agree a lot with this. maybe it’s because i don’t feel like i had a lot of figuring things out with being bi? like, i just sort of was like “hmm i think i like girls” one day when i was younger, and now it’s no big deal. i’m happy for other people who consider it a larger part of their identity, but i haven’t felt that way in a very long time personally.