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    It’s totally replaced reddit for me. Every community I’m interested is smaller than I’m used to, but much more positive. It’s cool even seeing a lot of the same names occasionally as I navigate around the site.

    I hope it keeps this level of quality as it grows.

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      What’s really cool is seeing actual conversations taking place. I’m actually able to comment here and I’m not immediately being drowned out by being one of ten thousand comments or constant contrarian trolling.

      It has also totally replaced Reddit for me. It reminds me a lot of the old internet and a bit of early Reddit. It’s a really cool experiment, and if it continues as-is I will be thrilled, and if not then I will forever have a sense of pride of what everyone here accomplished. It’s very cool.

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        Yeah, I never feel like I’m commenting/posting into the void. By my surprise, it has actually encouraged me to post more, which isn’t something I expected when I joined Lemmy, and definitely not something I ever did on reddit.

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          My dude, you and Stamets are my Lemmy heroes. I can’t imagine I’d spend that much time on Lemmy if you guys weren’t around.

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            Haha, I’m glad! I know I post a lot of memes in general, but Risa is by far my favorite community on lemmy. The more people that get into Star Trek, the better, I say!

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        I’ve always been such an admirer and peruser of such a classic and timeless dialectical format. Its like constantly examining knowledge and each other and being likewise cross-examined in all the best ways

        I honestly believe it has made me a much better writer and thinker although I have no pretensions about how systematic any of it is.

        Edit: it can compel me to be hilariously nitpicky sometimes

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          Anything that makes you think critically, ponder, analyse, or absorb knowledge is a grand thing.

          I just had an idea: daily Lemmy debates. We pick a topic that is relevant to the day, and we engage in healthy, respectful debate, picking a side and exploring that stance until all points of logic are exhausted.

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            Great idea. I also really liked Reddits’s KarmaCourt or whatever with the roles for Judge, prosecutor, defense, other officers of the “Court”, and jury etc. I love shit like that, its like the internet’s version of HarveyBirdman Attorney at Law. Oh, and SubredditSimulator is goddamn hilarious.

            Good schtuff

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              I’d really love it if someone could prosecute me for something in KarmaCourt, I doubt they would prevail, unfortunatley for all of us :(

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      I really do hope Lemmy can become sufficiently populous to allow for revitalizing all the niche subreddits and perpetuate+encourage that knowledge dissemination and truth-seeking function that Reddit (the community of communities rather than RedditCo) tends to do stunningly well.

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        I made one of my favorite niche communities (on my Lemmy.world account), for the XCOM games. And I try to drop memes in a few other super niche communities that I’m interested in every so often.

        Growth is slow, but a handful of very active users can contribute more than you’d think.

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          Just be careful. There’s some bad hombres out there spamming bad stuff and I don’t want any nice volunteers getting burned online or offline, if you catch my drift.

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      Lawl I see your name EVERYWHERE! Good stuff all over.

      Also a user named Ragnarok Online, which is a game that changed my life so much, I didn’t think I’d be around without it. He’s fantastic also.

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      Its insane how responsive and quick rhe answers pile up, asklemmy is the shit. Just asked a life or death question and already got lke r organic answers

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        I post and comment a lot, and it frequently leads to me having like 40-50 messages in my inbox if I don’t check for a few hours. I’ve even noticed a significant uptick lately, which is encouraging.

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      That can also be regulated to a certain extent at the Federation/instance level so its very possible to have different conventions or varying levels of quality control for posting and commenting

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      The gaming communities are the only negative ones I have. It’s really sad, because I really want to be in gaming communities, but I just can’t stand all the negativity all of the time.

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        I’ve found that communities that are both mainstream and related to technical subjects to always get filled by people who know just barely enough about the subject to spread self-assured disinformation.

        You won’t really have this problem with super-niche stuff, or stuff that isn’t mainstream enough like a pilot community. Gaming in social media is definitely cursed.

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        Yeah, it feels like gaming communities everywhere on the internet can be so toxic.

        I’ve had better luck with comms focused on individual games, but their content is slow right now.

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    I’ve been trying out the other fediverse platforms, based on how cool Lemmy is, and they all pale in comparison. It really is a neat little thing we’ve got going on.

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      I really do like Tildes for certain more predictably high-quality answers when its something serious or technical but it can seem a touch heavy-handed. Ultimately, I appreciate the rigor where its important to have that and filter the memes and general+local anaesthesia nonsense we all love and know Lemmy for ;)

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        Your post prompted me to have a look at Tildes. It looks alright, but a bit… dry.

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          Its not for everyone and that’s part of why its for me ;) Not that I’m elitist or anything, I just hate low-efforts and assholes, ne’r may the two meet here

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          It can be. Women or queer persons can potentially have a tough time there, too.

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            Ya, that post was pretty wishsy-washy and sweeping, people can make their points without needing to resort to identity politics to give credibillity to non-credible or insufficient arguments they want to toss out there. From my experience, I could argue any point from whatever lens you can think of and I believe I could receive votes and recognition. I can even swear because the force of my argument will be sufficient to excuse any nominal crassness that I strategically use to intensify the reasonable claim I ultimately make from the relevant or hypothetical vantage point in question.

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            Can you elaborate or link me to some corroboration of that—it seemed remarkably progressive and reasonable in my limited experience

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              So, here’s the thing. There’s a difference between a space allowing people that don’t look or act like the people already in the group and accepting those people. In some places, inclusiveness ends as soon as you get in the front door. Tildes is one of those places.

              Now, don’t get wrong, I don’t think most of the people at Tildes are intentionally malicious or anything like that. And any large influx of people like the kind that would have happened with open registration after what went down on Reddit is going to cause mistrust and, sometimes, hostility. That’s just human nature. The difference is Tildes is intentionally protective of its culture.

              This came about by both a) restricting the development of niche (or minority) communities, and b) limiting invites so that the small trickle of people who come in are assimilated more easily. That culture–like so many of these types of places–started with mostly white men of privilege from the tech sector. All the good and bad that comes with that is going to propagate in such an environment.

              Even if Tildes didn’t originate in a culture that has a reputation for being homogenous and abrasive, this setup would still have lead to a certain type of group-think. Dismissive, and a little bit short on empathy and active listening. Martin Luther King Jr. talked about negative peace, where there wasn’t open hostility, just an absence of tension (as opposed to positive peace, which is the presence of justice). This is not dissimilar.

              This comment chain on Tildes is an example someone else shared.

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                My only argument I wanna make here is nobody knew my race or identity when I even asked for and summarily received an invite to Tildes (almost instantly!)

                Unless I’m making some perceptual or logical issue here, I would say that is a stark contrast to the vignette you sorta painted here.

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                  Again, it’s not about who they let in. It’s about how they respond to conversation that doesn’t mesh with their ingrained culture.

                  The conversation I linked is all about that.

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          Less is more with Tildes. Its definitely less rich in quantity than the overall tenor and quality of the specific discourse that goes on.

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    It’s only good because of all the hard work being put in by the moderators. Unfortunately, behind the scenes, Lemmy sucks and is severely lacking in moderation tools to deal with spammers, trolls and sick people who post illegal content.

    See this post for instance, I feel pretty bad for the mods who have to deal with such stuff: https://beehaw.org/post/7943139

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      It’s not just the mods but the admins going to lengths to keep their instances clean. The awfulness outlined in that post means I’m not sure I should keep hosting my own instance.

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        Indeed, it’s not really a good idea to run your own instance if you’re not prepared to deal with such content. Many small instance admins have shutdown their instances for this very reason.

        There was a patch merged recently which disabled caching of federated images, but I believe it still needs some work. Some discussion around that over here: https://sh.itjust.works/post/3962112 including an interesting comment suggesting rerouting /pictrs/ path to 404, so nginx won’t serve any images.

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        Don’t, software is shit and you’re not prepared for what you’ll see and how much time you need to sink into that project.

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      Goddam, I really hope I never come into contact with anything like that. I think it would turn me into a fanatical vigilante.

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        Besides contributing actual code… not really. You can donate money which will help with the upkeep of servers, but that’s not really an issue with most instances. No amount of money can compensate someone (normal) for dealing with the trauma associated with such content. So yeah, the only thing that can really help right now is tools for moderation and user access controls.

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    Honestly I think lemmy is kinda meh but im just here cus fuck reddit…

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      I agree, but I sometimes check out reddit as well and it’s also been meh now. It seems that social media as a whole is in a steep decline. No good content anywhere. Or maybe I’m just getting old.

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        This is a transition period.

        Reddit lost a lot of important contributors during its little krystalspez crackdown. The formula for a successful, self-propagating online community is: good moderation + posted content + interesting comments + lurkers = healthy community.

        Reddit still maintains a lot of its heavy posters, but a lot of the interesting comment makers have drifted off… a lot of them moved here. The federated communities don’t have the continuous churning content creators en masse yet, but they do have interesting comments coming from the people that are here.

        Reddit is somewhat the opposite. The content creators are churning away, but the interesting comments are dying off. There is more content being created on Reddit, but the comment that you will quote, or think about all day, is now slightly more likely to be made in a federated thread.

        So Reddit feels hollow, and out here feels growing but still light on content. I predict that prolific posters prefer pointed ripostes to their posting, and will work their way here. That will be great, but it will also drag along a lot of the problem children of reddit as well. That will put a huge burden on the moderation here, as well as start piling on those server fees. I predict in a year or two, we will face the choice of doing zany pledge drives to protect our larger servers, or face some forms of blatant monetization. Also we’ll have to figure out how to avoid giving the hug of death to new federated servers with interesting content.

        …and there will be hidden corporate shill servers trying to latch in. Another problem with federation we need to consider down the road.

        But it’s worth it. Capitalism will always try to exploit community, but community is an important human experience. If we can keep the leeches down to a minimum, we can build great things together, and help each other in a world that increasingly only offers what profits most. That type of community is what Reddit pretended to be, and it’s what the Federated Communities can be.

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          This is honestly a great observation, I’ve noticed on those rare times I need to search for answers to specific questions on reddit, posts have fewer and generally less thorough/helpful comments. The biggest downside to reddit imploding has been the decrease in “real” posts and interactions when you’re trying to find genuine discussions or answers to niche questions.

          That’s the biggest reason I still think Lemmy has a ways to go, there’s not really an efficient way for all these posts to be search-indexed for engines like Google, DDG, etc. If that problem can somehow be solved, it’d do wonders for Lemmy’s discoverability.

          Like you said, there’s definitely flaws to this platform, and by nature of being a community center it’s likely to be targeted for corporate interests, but the architecture of this Federated platform makes it much easier to keep power in the hands of the community and keep things genuine and interesting over here. I’m just glad I have a place to scroll through where people’s comments are longer than a few words, and people seem genuinely interested in interacting.

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          I think at some point we are really going to need to look at success stories like Tildes and HackerNews and find the common strategies we can employ to sustain the viabillity and legitimacy of Lemmy.

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              It is because it is basically self-sustaining, its already won me over with the quality and rigor of discussions (which exist), and guess what they don’t have problems with: moderation and CSAM issues, which Lemmy currently does (alledgedly).

              We can argue over the semantics of “successfull” since its a vague overlapping conflation of quantitative and qualitative metrics, but let’s try to maintain a productive discussion about allies we can work with to improve our own platform.

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                Why do lemmy users keep ignoring the obvious success of Mastodon. Its clearly the most successful federated platform. We should be learning from Masto.

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        Just a heads up, this is how early reddit was. People will argue that the larger the platform the more likely the community will deteriorate. I will argue that is partly true and does contribute to enshittification of social media, but I think the main factor is the corporate greedos trying to continuously increase profit. Reddit kept making new rules and policies that kept degrading the platform. They made a toxic environment where flaming and antagonistic content would be shown on people’s feed.

        Am I saying Lemmy isn’t awesome? Not really. You guys can make that conclusion. But I have seen similar posts like this in the early days of reddit. Make do of this as you want. Ponder and ask what made reddit bad and if this is the path of lemmy or it is “naturally” immune to it.

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          The federation aspect helps regulate. If it gets too bad, we could always go invite-only for certain periods to quiet things down a bit like Tildes insists on. Not the worst way to preserve access while limiting the bullshit

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    First weekend on Lemmy and I’m loving it.

    I’m noticing a very strong hard-left bent though, which suits me just fine, but it’s interesting to see how progressive this space is

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          If one side says that I should be imprisoned or dead for existing, and the other says I should live not in prison or not dead, I choose life

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            Yes, but also not every issue is that.

            Granted, I think center vs left is where meaningful policy conversation is happening… left vs right or center vs right is normally just painful

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              Center will gladly consolidate power with right if it conforms with their interests, they more frequently will make coalition with the right before they ever even communicate with the left Center has and will gladly overlook slavery if it conforms with their interests Center has always been complicit with overlooking genocide if they ‘don’t have skin in the game’ Center is LITERALLY THE REASON why Hitler was elected, the Weimar Republic was vaguely modern center and STILL VOTED HIM IN

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                Super important insight. Compromising on something that’s insane with 1/2 insane is not a choice at all, really, and is just plain unacceptable still.

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                When I wrote that I was internally mapping center to mainstream Democrats.

                I think you’re putting that more at like Joe Manchin.

                Still… in either case I think you’re out of your mind if you think anyone, except for the very furthest right white nationals, is willing to overlook slavery itself in 2023.

                The comparison of “Center” as an abstract thing you’re tying to Hitler honestly comes off as unhinged.

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                  Democrats are socially center-left and economically center-right If there is a conflict with a social topic and an economic one, they will USUALLY FAVOR the economic one

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              I dunno if you have payed attention to politics recently but “we need to exterminate the trans agenda and the people who spread it” ain’t exactly anyone misconstruing what those people have been saying

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                  I’m not sure you know this, but housing is a NEED, and making it a tradable commodity that is affected by market trends tends to harm more people than it serves

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                  Loud liberals on TikTok are not elected officials

                  There are 496 bills that are introduced to state legislatures all the way to passed in the united states, spanning every state

                  Loud liberals are saying illogical, irrational things loudly on a social media app

                  13 states have laws that specify trans people being murdered is not a crime if the murderer thought they were cis

                  People not in power in any part of the 3 branches of government said something mean

                  In a majority of states, trans individuals can be removed from/denied employment, housing, state assistance, medical care, or virtually anything involving a contract

                  Just because some people were mean in your direction does not mean that they have any meaningful power, and the people being handwaved off that actually have political power are actually doing the things that people are saying they’re doing

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        People behave in normal distributions. By definition vast majority of people are in the centre. The extremists (outliers) scream the loudest and warp an observer’s perception but the actual population is still a normal distribution.

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          This was before my political consciousness, but I feel like 1992 has an argument, but maybe that was just because of Perot…

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      Communists built the platform, and far left spaces fled here years before the rest of us, after Reddit banned some leftist subs.

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      The Politics@ communities seem to be doing their best to bring that back to the right, but yes, outside of that it’s leftist to a lovely degree.

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    I’ve commented more here in this short time than my 10 years on reddit. I feel heard and I feel supported. Most people are civil and respectful and I really appreciate it. Thank you all.

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    Federation is just complicated enough to keep the dummies out. Also probably defederating the idiot instances and better content moderation.

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      Not only that, but the community is small enough that large corporations and marketing companies don’t care about it. Yet ;)

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        I think this is the biggest reason. A huge amount of content on reddit is astroturfing / brand manipulation; both in posts and in the comments. And in addition to that, a there’s a huge amount of ‘karma farming’, where heaps of popular but low-effort content is recycled over and over again to gain points and create a sense of credibility for accounts that will later be used for marketing / manipulation.

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        And at that point we can defederate from corporate instances. Its so user first.

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      I don’t understand the “it’s complicated” thing. Figuring out which instance to use was slightly confusing (I went with lemmy.world because it seemed to be the most popular at the time), but after that, it’s no more complicated than Reddit or any other social media site. Am I missing anything?

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          Yep. Presenting the user with a choice that they don’t fully understand (which instance should I choose? What even is an instance?) is a very big deterrent.

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            Bigger deterrent is presenting real choice than one they don’t understand

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        No, you tried something new, the unknown did not dither you. Weirdly, that was the “complicated” barrier.

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        Well, dummies is too strong a word tbh. its the people who didn’t take the 30 seconds to understand how they have been using e-mail, a federated service, their entire fucking lives and things worked well.

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    I love that there are so many geeks with such healthy understanding about the world.

    Religion? Pff, everyone pro-atheism.

    Climate change? Pff, everyone against corps.

    Open source software & privacy? Pff, lots of suggestions od what to do and what NOT to do.

    Lemmy is great.

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      I’m really not against going to church and being pro-social, as long as people are innoculated with critical thinking and common sense.

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        As a critical thinker, church is unlikely to be high on your list of socializing options - unless you’re conducting some kind of experiment.

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          Its not about the god stuff, its about community and getting out to meet and socialize with it. God is just the social lubricant in place of alcohol but lots of cool people, musicians particularly, younger people like myself to make friends, lunches, prizes, volunteering to help people in non-religious services, etc.

          Don’t give a flying fuck about god, “he” is most likely nothing more than a simulacrum at this point (as he always was), its just good people and really accepting ones depending on the church. Mine def is

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            Man, I too would like to have a community gathering place, but the local church is super elitist and the priest is a conservative dickhead, so while I would have imagined that churches would not be like that, many alienate potential community members :/

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              I’d love for people to understand that depending on your area, there might be multiple churches and its really a process of trial and error to find the right fit. Personally, non-denominational is the way to go and it helps if they have a good, modern worship section with cool instruments and a decent stage. I say this because its often representative of their approach to everything else, the more modern, generallly, the better.

              This extends to their attitudes towards diversity (racially speaking) and tolerance towards LGBTQ+. I don’t want to get into identity politics because its a distraction and unnecessary to anything, particularly religious belief and functioning in the modern world.

              Your church, like you, should not give a fuck who takes what body part where for sexual gratification or where one’s attractions lay, as long as it is truly and deeply consensual and its is not radically legally barred like with animals and children. I am not associating those latter two things to the former designations, a gay person or trans person can be entirely moral and logically consistent and valuable in the eyes of whoever or whatever god is for all poetic and practical intents.

              Likewise with race, it is retarded to care avout what someone’s skin color or ethnic background is as long as they are peaceful and conduct themselves in a way that they are not corrosive to the society in question. It should not cost the people native to a place to accomodate the existence of that from another, particularly whenever it involves violent injury or displacement.

              It is not wrong to require varying levels of scrutiny based on where someone came from for the reason that a culture and birth place, geographically speaking, has baggage and influences one’s attitude toward peaceful conduct and respect for bodily integrity and integrity of one’s holistic being. Cultures that are intolerant and deny the humanity and worthiness of others cannnot stand and should not be tolerated, not even a little bit. They must be allowed (and I would argue, even facillitated into) drive(ing) themselves into extinction and it is moral to allow them to do so while safeguarding one own society and private existence.

              Having said all that, my original advice stands. As well, I wish more people would believe people when they show and tell who they are. You’ve correctly assessed the nature of the priest and you are likely correct to avoid him and that which he represents. If you can drive and there are other churches around somewhere, I would suggest you check those out. But there are also virtual services offered by many churches and if I can do so without doxxing myself, I will think on how to help you with that. But in person for fellowship and involvement in the community are foundational to the experience and I would implore you to be creative and find a way to find a good place and to make it possible to attend directly.

              Please take care and I’ll try to help any way I can.

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              Try looking into the Unitarian, Episcopal or United Church if Christ as all three tend to be more progressive if you want a community that is likely to not be as conservative. The Episcopal church, of the three, is more likely to have a conservative element as it was the “elite” denomination for centuries.

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            I wish this was possible without the whole god thing. What do you do during prayers etc.? Whenever I’ve attended a baptism or a funeral or some such, all I can think about is how much mana the priest is using when casting the bless on the audience. It gets so awkward.

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            As someone who sees religion as a scourge on society and the unfettered, tax-free existence of churches as little more than a symptom, I wasn’t crazy about the possible implication that church attendance was required in order for one to be considered prosocial.

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              I do if its a badly-behaving church that is doing that crap, otherwise they can really be a positive fixture of the community if its done right

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      I’m amazed these days at how acute my “bullshit-o-meter” is. Its pretty fucking hard to run any bullshit past me most days as of late. This format really is brain candy for my personality and knowledge aquisition

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    Lemmy has been helping me lots. Been feeling so isolated, this is the first social online platform I’ve been able to participate in years. Talking to actual humans. Being able to help other humans.

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      Welcome! It might be doomsday outside, the roof of this place is leaking and might be close to caving in, but I’m glad you are here in this corner of the Internet with us today. ❤

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        Pi is listed to 90 decimal points, taped to wall across from bed. I recite it over and over when going to sleep. =)

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      I agree, 100%. I never posted on other social media platforms until trying Lemmy, Mastodon, or Firefish. I find the fediverse is a really pleasant experience as long as the instance moderates can keep up with the spam, trolls, and other unwanted content. I think it’s because it’s not trying to commercialize the platforms that makes it more interesting and pleasant, at least for me.

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    When I parted ways with reddit, when the API scandal happened, it was very timely. A lot of content from reddit was toxic for me. All the negative news, about environment, about how people are treated at their job, about how shitty companies are nowadays. Not to mention the rampant cynicism…

    I left all that behind, and it really helped me get the high ground (hey Anakin) against my mental health problems. I was dangerously flirting with a burnout. This break was very beneficial.

    When I saw that Sync for lemmy was available, I tried it. The facts that there are much less trolls here, much less cynicism (and also the fact that I’m now medicated) really help, and I feel now I can be among communities that aren’t too toxic for me.

    Thanks lemmy friends.

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      Glad you’re here friend, and glad you’re doing better!

      Dammit Reddit was so fucking unhealthy.

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        The thing is… I was using reddit as a coping mechanism. I didn’t want to feel what I was feeling so I would numb my mind with nonsense content on reddit. At one point, it became more harmful than numbing.