Essentially everything that would have told me a few years ago that my wish to be a woman was REALLY not something that cis-people experience and what the actual diagnostic criteria for gender-dysphoria were.
I was SOOO close to getting it about 10 years ago, it’s mind-boggling. Like I talked to other trans-people I knew at the time about how I suspected that I was trans, I read up on the topic and in the end stupidly decided that all my issues were only that I was lonely and that the only reason I wanted to be a girl was because it would have made dating so much easier and that that wouldn’t translate into dating as a trans-woman.
I mean, yes, this was a real problem I had, but there were so many other signs that it was not just that and I completely ignored that cis people would not respond to that problem with the wish for a different gender. It’s really as stupid as it sounds, and it cost me very dearly in so many ways.
Early on(first couple weeks of realizing) I had some similar thoughts, not about dating since I’m married(added to the confusion) but yeah we don’t have other people we regularly talk to or hang out with. I had a lot of back and forth. But I think it was enough of those “Yeah sis, you’re trans” memes that started solidifying it.
that wouldn’t translate into dating as a trans-woman
So far, what about that as you went on MtF?
Not trying to invalidate or anything of this kind, just curious and relating personal experience: I found out the hard way that the kind of person I would actually like to live with would not want a trans, and i never thought about intimate relationships while pursuing transition. I found out this person to be way more important than transitioning or my ideals per say…
So far:
Essentially everything that would have told me a few years ago that my wish to be a woman was REALLY not something that cis-people experience and what the actual diagnostic criteria for gender-dysphoria were.
I was SOOO close to getting it about 10 years ago, it’s mind-boggling. Like I talked to other trans-people I knew at the time about how I suspected that I was trans, I read up on the topic and in the end stupidly decided that all my issues were only that I was lonely and that the only reason I wanted to be a girl was because it would have made dating so much easier and that that wouldn’t translate into dating as a trans-woman.
I mean, yes, this was a real problem I had, but there were so many other signs that it was not just that and I completely ignored that cis people would not respond to that problem with the wish for a different gender. It’s really as stupid as it sounds, and it cost me very dearly in so many ways.
Early on(first couple weeks of realizing) I had some similar thoughts, not about dating since I’m married(added to the confusion) but yeah we don’t have other people we regularly talk to or hang out with. I had a lot of back and forth. But I think it was enough of those “Yeah sis, you’re trans” memes that started solidifying it.
So far, what about that as you went on MtF?
Not trying to invalidate or anything of this kind, just curious and relating personal experience: I found out the hard way that the kind of person I would actually like to live with would not want a trans, and i never thought about intimate relationships while pursuing transition. I found out this person to be way more important than transitioning or my ideals per say…