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      Sorry if I don’t think minor topics are worthy of the immediate attention needed for a phone call?

      Phone calls are reserved for emergencies. Otherwise you’re just demanding the instant attention of someone for nothing.

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          I like to compare calling to someone knocking on your door incessantly for several seconds.

          You can ignore it or decline to answer. It’s still annoying af.

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          So why call in the first place? And how will I ever know what the call was about? Unless you text, of course, so why not just do that in the first place?

          You may not intent for it to be a demand, but unless you have your phone on silent, it will keep ringing and making noise until you do something about it. It demands an action, and tries to get your attention as much as possible.

          Which is why it’s designated to emergencies. This makes calling more useful as well, because now you know calls are more important, and can actually treat them with more urgency. Otherwise you’re just gonna end up ignoring what may be an actual emergency, because you treat every phone call the same.

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            Gen X here, only had a smartphone 5 years as before I was avoiding it. Typing is painful. Just answer the phone and we’ll get that query sorted in less time than I would take to type the initial question. Don’t be a big baby about it.

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              Did you know, as with most things, typing on a phone is a skill that improves with use. Get with the times, don’t be a big baby about it

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                Did you know that brain plasticity decreases with age? It means learning new skills becomes progressively harder and harder and harder.

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                  You specifically chose not to use smart phones until 5 years ago by your own admission, and are actively refusing to attempt to learn the new skill, get out of here with your brain plasticity argument. You’re doing this to yourself and ridiculing others

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                    Like avoiding mobile phones for as long as I could was doing something to myself rather than doing something for myself. Also, I ain’t getting out of here with my brain plasticity argument because if I am going to be mindful of PTSD and autism and all the other conditions that I am going to be mindful of then people can be mindful of my ageing brain and more recently the very real brain fog that can be the result of Covid (my memory has gone to shit since I had it.)

                    As I have said elsewhere if there’s a genuinely good reason for not phoning then I won’t but the one condition I’m not respecting is a chronic fear that one day they might do something that is convenient to someone else.

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                If it’s genuine PTSD then you have my every sympathy and I hope that you can get some peace from it.

                Nobody I’m calling have anything worse than lazyitis.

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              Can you elaborate on why you think this is a psychological problem?

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                  Phones used to be all about phonecalls. They aren’t anymore.

                  None of my friends call people on their phones on a regular basis.

                  Things change

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          Except the problem is I don’t know what the call is about so you’re asking me to make a except/declined decision with no information.

          If you send a text message I have the information.

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          When you decline a call you don’t know what it’s about. The only thing I can think of when I family member calls and I decline a call is that they needed desperate help/were in an emergency and I just hung up on them.

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      I’m 40. I don’t even answer the phone if it rings. If it’s important they can leave a message.

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        Which I’ll check in a few days. If it’s important, and they are pinned underneath a vehicle about to die, they can send a voice memo.

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        That’s about outgoing calls. Incoming calls still will be fullscreen pop-ups

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          Depends on the status of the phone when the call arrives.

          One thing I enjoy about the Pixel phone experience is the call screening feature. Having a transcript of the callers reason for calling has been a great bonus!

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      I don’t think all zoomers are, but a LOT of the people I know are TERRIFIED of phone calls. I was like that too, before I started applying for jobs and had to make like 3 calls a week.

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        Yeah, I’m a millennial and use to have terrible phone anxiety. It prevented me from being able to get a job for a long time. I would always try to go in person instead because it was less anxiety inducing but never got a job that way.

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      Also almost 40. Fuck synchronous communications. Inferior in every possible way.