In my experience it’s much easier to be a similar “perfect” in the long run. My parents were shit and they’re forever miserable, because they’re not willing to do the hard work for happiness. Meanwhile I’ve been at it regarding the hard work and, sure, while exhausting, I feel far better for it and it feels so much more sustainable.
I could go on and elaborate but idk if that’s too necessary
Not to mention it’s very likely to lead to problems down the line if you ban discussion and don’t work out problems
Take for example antivax stuff or thinking doctors are in for a conspiracy or something. That can directly lead to someone’s death. You do not want that to happen
Or social issues like regarding queer people, what if someone’s child realizes they’re queer? Then it’s going to blow up again anyway, and the child will suffer
And so on