I just recently had some awful DM harassment from a transphobic idiot who told me that I was pretending to be trans. It was dealt with but I’m still left wondering. Why do some people believe that we would pretend to be trans? What do they think someone would gain by “pretending” to be trans. It just seems so stupid because I’ve dealt with so much oppression and people invalidating me my whole life, and yet they still think I’m pretending to be trans for some some reason…? Why? What the fuck does someone gain from pretending to be trans? This makes no fucking sense whatsoever.
Sorry for this rant, I really needed to get this off my chest.
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I mean we get the chasers, being banned from sports, degradation… It goes on and on, who wouldn’t want to be trans🤷♀️
Sarcasm aside, they heard an old guy say it so that’s what they know about trans people.
My dad’s hot take on trans people was that they’re transitioning to upset their parents. I’m not trans but this shit got me so pissed and is maybe the dumbest and most offensive shit I’ve ever heard him say. I’m sorry that you’re in a position where people feel they can offload horrible marginalising garbage onto you. You’re absolutely right… It makes no fucking sense.
I think your dad has the dumbest take I’ve heard yet
It makes perfect sense if you’re a person who thinks they’re the absolute center of the world and you judge every other person’s actions by how they impact you personally, I suppose.
Sometimes I see people like that and I wonder how they have kids, let alone a romantic partner
Do people not exercise theory of mind enough? Does he not ever realize that people live whole lives outside of what he sees and imagines?
It is dogma mixed with the unfamiliar. It is very similar to how people that do not GAF about me and my physical disability like to say I’m fine and just lazy or it is in my head. That is the most destructive bullshit anyone can say to me, but I have learned to translate it as them saying “I am a worthless homicidal fuck that wants to kill you,” and that seems to help keep things in perspective. There are a whole lot of stupid people in the world. Average is a very low bar and half of the world is below it.
“Never argue with stupid people. They bring you down to their level, and beat you with experience.”
Best part of that quote is when they agree and take it as a complement.
It’s in the MAGA rhetoric, sadly.
I asked the same question about gay people back in the 90s and it was the start of me moving away from a conservative mindset. I’m straight enough that the answer teenage me landed on was “someone gayer than I am, but unwilling to admit it to themselves. Or a liar.”
You assume they think through it beyond “I don’t get it therefore it’s fake”
The same kind of dumbass who pretends to be cis, and hetero. It’s projection. They’re so used to “pretending”, they can’t imagine it could be any other way.
