Hey girls and friends!
I am kinda timid even if I really like social contact, and for most of my life I have mostly had guy friends. I guess it’s because it’s easier to approach and be approched by guys when you whole body says that you are a guy… Also I was a student in computer science so there are mostly guys. Essentially my close-friends group is mostly trans girls and non-binary AFAB and guys. It’s been a bit of an anxiety of mine that cis women wouldn’t see me as a woman, but as a kinda creepy guy…
This week I contacted an old girl-friend of mine from Highschool and suggested that we had a drink since we hadn’t seen each other in years. I also came out by message. The discussion at the bar was great and it was basically the first time that a cis woman welcomed me into womanhood. She discussed about how being a woman was awesome and that I will love it. This is so great. I have essentially never had a AFAB person tell me how womanhood is great, only about how bad it is.
Yesterday I attended another social event and the few girls there also treated me as one of their own. So yay, I place this week under the umbrella of “Being accepted by cis girls” and I love it! Much acceptance and validation <3
How’s it for you? How was your week?
Hello!
I have the same worry, despite great experiences like yours being accepted. Here’s what I tell myself:
Having grown up around men being creepy to and about women, it’s natural to be a bit wary. But that’s not you. I’ve met quite a few pre-transition MTF people now, some of whom appeared very masculine, and it’s immediately apparent that it’s a non-threatening interaction. I guess it’s unconscious body language, or something like that. Men being creepy tend to seek attention from women as a man.
Anyway, there’s a group of women friends I meet up with from time to time (since well before I hatched) who were the first non-family I came out to. They’re so accepting and affirming, I usually end up in happy tears at the end of the evening.
Still (probably irrationally) scared of using the women’s bathroom in case I make someone uncomfortable, though.