TransfemEnglish · 3 days ago

Paralysis from perfectionism and transitioning

TransfemEnglish · 3 days ago

[Engagement from anyone welcome]

Context, informed consent is a thing here and I will likely be starting HRT in the next month or two. Here is what my thought process has been for the last year since beginning to socially transition, although very slowly.

I should buy feminine clothes
I don’t want to have to buy new clothes once my measurements (hopefully) change from HRT
I will wait to buy feminine clothes

I should practice makeup
Makeup makes dysphoria worse
I should start HRT / look into FFS
I will wait to practice makeup

I should start HRT
I haven’t earned that; I don’t dress or present fem
Kick can down the road for HRT

The good news is I called a doctor last week to schedule the appointment! So things are progressing. Just wanted to see if any guys, gals, or pals have had a similar experience with their transition, or seen someone else go through that.

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3 days ago

You have a medical condition that needs treatment. No one earns medical care, it’s a necessity.

this a thousand times, shout it from the rooftops: transition is not earned, is not a luxury, is not optional - it is a medical necessity

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