• Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee
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    If they follow the rules, they are always welcome in Casual Conversation.

    I do not understand the same reasons to judge them that everyone else seems to. They have never seemed antagonistic.

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      According to “drag,” you’ve already misgendered them four times. They’d report you for this.

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          Is there a link describing “the three basic courtesy rules” that doesn’t go to Xitter? I can’t access that site (and wouldn’t want to even if I could, tbh.)

          I tried searching for that phrase online and found generic “etiquette” lists, but without further context I can’t tell if I’m finding the same thing you’re referring to.

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            Rule 1: The way of referring to oneself should be translatable between mainstream languages. You can’t blame people of other dialects for botching certain words or having no equivalent word. Something there must be accommodated for.

            Rule 2: It should be six letters or shorter. It would be misusage if problems were caused because it was longer, such as creating too much bureaucratic stress.

            Rule 3: No shock value is involved. I can’t imagine people referring to you as a slur based on your instruction and being indifferent to it.

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              this is interesting and i think it would be valuable to have discourse about this outside of distasteful characters, thanks for bringing it to attention

              my initial thoughts are “what does mainstream mean lol” and “why six letters” and “what about languages that don’t use the roman alphabet”

              but i appreciate the stance of respect and pragmatism this seems to come from so that’s nice

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                The word “mainstream” is used as opposed to oddly specific obstacles. A dialect, like, say, Mandarin is just a fact of life, as opposed to, say, encountering someone who wants you to adapt what you say into Klingon.

                “Six letters” is chosen because it matches average nickname length and is a good starter point for compatibility. Letters from most alphabets can be swapped with letters into other alphabets, so that is no issue. As for logographic ones, most Mandarin characters do equal a phrase that would equal six letters.

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          They also said that they are not a person, but instead, a “dragon rider” which would indicate one who rides dragons. So… Is a dragon’s rider a dragon that rides dragons? A race of non-human things that ride dragons? Neither of these?

          Also, take a stroll through their comment history. They are very inconsistent over the months since their account was created.

          It’s almost as if they were making it up as they went along.

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            Inconsistent with their gender/pronouns or inconsistent with who they are?

            To be honest, when I first met them, my first impression was they might be otherkin, though I didn’t have those exact words to say.

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      There are/were some instances of harassment with multiple accounts from them IIRC

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          Its been a while since I saw the posts, but it was not subtle at all; immediate reactionary posts from the same instance all badmouthing someone drag was arguing with, using the same phrasing and sentence structure drag uses.

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              Idk fam, I feel like weird use of language kinda pales in comparison to sexual harassment of other users, and the fact that the former is what most people seem to care about with DragonFucker is kinda concerning.

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              This “condensed” write up by @southernsamurai is, I feel, an excellent argument for why that isn’t true.
              If you look through my various comments on this thread, you’ll see that I am…not a fan of Drag. They’re one of, again blah blah blah personal opinion, the worst types of person. Using rules in a safe space for vulnerable people against them, intentionally stirring the pot and garnering ill will across the Fed, some of it inappropriately aimed at the safe space. I’m not sure I believe that they are otherkin as they claim, but I’ll be respectful and call them what they want to be called while I tell them that drag should look dragself in the mirror and treat others with the same respect and decency befitting a fellow sentient that they weaponise the rules to force others to give them or be removed. And if drag cannot bring dragself to treat others well, cannot stop misgendering others, or telling them to KYS, Drag is not worth the piss it would take to put out a fire. But we’re presumably civilised, and I will use the terms drag wants used to refer to drag to politely tell drag to go fuck dragself off somewhere dragr behaviour is welcome. Which is definitely not here.

          • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee
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            Coincidences do happen. I got semi-banned from a place once, and a few months afterward, someone joined with a name that was near-identical. It was a real Guy Incognito moment.