• pooberbee (they/she)@lemmy.ml
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    If you swap the words cis and trans in this, it’s just as absurd. Respect yourself. Be who you want to be. Trans, cis, be the dinosaur astronaut you wanted to be when you were four years old. The mere act of asking yourself what you want and really listening to the answer is all the permission you need.

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      Not disagreeing with your point, just want to point out some people who grew up in a very repressed environment can really struggle with figuring out what they even internally want to be. Sometimes it’s a situation that triggers the thought and they reactionarily stuff that right back down. I get that that’s a different situation that what your talking about here, I’m not disagreeing with what you’re saying.

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        That was exactly my case. I grew up in a very repressed environment where sexuality and gender were taught and reinforced in an extremely cis- and hetero-normative way. We were not taught about gender and sexuality in a factual or responsible way, much less encouraged to explore and determine our identities for ourselves. It’s taken me a lot of self reflection, learning what being queer really means, and unlearning some really unhealthy thought patterns, to start to recognize who I truly am

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        Everyone’s experience is different, and everyone will deal with different hangups, that’s true. I grew up in a very repressed environment myself, actually, and it has been a real struggle and many years of shedding layer after layer of repression to get to where I am, and every time it’s been learning how to listen to myself. I’m also not disagreeing with you either! ❤️