• Snowclone@lemmy.world
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    6 days ago

    Not disagreeing with your point, just want to point out some people who grew up in a very repressed environment can really struggle with figuring out what they even internally want to be. Sometimes it’s a situation that triggers the thought and they reactionarily stuff that right back down. I get that that’s a different situation that what your talking about here, I’m not disagreeing with what you’re saying.

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      That was exactly my case. I grew up in a very repressed environment where sexuality and gender were taught and reinforced in an extremely cis- and hetero-normative way. We were not taught about gender and sexuality in a factual or responsible way, much less encouraged to explore and determine our identities for ourselves. It’s taken me a lot of self reflection, learning what being queer really means, and unlearning some really unhealthy thought patterns, to start to recognize who I truly am

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      Everyone’s experience is different, and everyone will deal with different hangups, that’s true. I grew up in a very repressed environment myself, actually, and it has been a real struggle and many years of shedding layer after layer of repression to get to where I am, and every time it’s been learning how to listen to myself. I’m also not disagreeing with you either! ❤️