Back on the bad site there was a group called r/actuallesbians (named as such because r/lesbians was already taken by a porn group, not for any gender essentialism or gold star-ism) and all women and femme-aligned folks that experience sapphic love and attraction were welcomed there. I think that’s a really comfy way to run a space like this, and would love to see the same here if that’s agreeable to folks.