If anyone’s wondering what you should do first, the first thing you should do is block hexbear, and the next thing you should do is join any instance other than lemmy.ml. lemmy.world is a good choice, but there’s probably one you’ll like better.

If you want to know the most trans-friendly instance, it’s lemmy.blahaj.zone. There are people who will tell you it’s Hexbear. Those people are liars.