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minus-squareLumelore (She/her)linkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up61·4 days agoThat’s fucked. If I was dating a guy and he cried in front of me it would make me happy to know that he feels safe being vulnerable around me. I would treasure him forever after that.
minus-squareKimjongtooill@sh.itjust.workslinkfedilinkarrow-up55·4 days agoNot everyone is a good person.
minus-squarekhannie@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up22·4 days agoThis is absolutely the way to look at that level of intimacy IMO because that’s how I view it. The day my dad died, nearly 23 years ago now, was also the day that I knew I’d ask my wife to marry me. It was a long illness and he was relatively young. We were living together and I had just sucked it up for 18 painful months. Never cried once. Anyway the day came and I got home and just cracked when we went to bed. I just sobbed in the bed with her. Like a real, deep, deep sobbing. She just held me and rubbed my hair and I will never, ever forget that. Anyway about 8 months later I asked her to marry me and we’re married over 20 years now and have a beautiful family together. I love her so much.
minus-squareshalafi@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up13·4 days agoAnd my wife is exactly like you. But just sayin’, in my experience, most women are not. And I get it! No woman craves a weak man. No woman says to herself, “I wish my man was a sobbing pile of goo!” Women want a strong man, a man that protects her from the slings and arrows of life. We can be those men and still cry. But it ain’t easy.
That’s fucked. If I was dating a guy and he cried in front of me it would make me happy to know that he feels safe being vulnerable around me. I would treasure him forever after that.
Not everyone is a good person.
This is absolutely the way to look at that level of intimacy IMO because that’s how I view it.
The day my dad died, nearly 23 years ago now, was also the day that I knew I’d ask my wife to marry me.
It was a long illness and he was relatively young. We were living together and I had just sucked it up for 18 painful months. Never cried once.
Anyway the day came and I got home and just cracked when we went to bed. I just sobbed in the bed with her. Like a real, deep, deep sobbing.
She just held me and rubbed my hair and I will never, ever forget that.
Anyway about 8 months later I asked her to marry me and we’re married over 20 years now and have a beautiful family together. I love her so much.
And my wife is exactly like you. But just sayin’, in my experience, most women are not.
And I get it! No woman craves a weak man. No woman says to herself, “I wish my man was a sobbing pile of goo!”
Women want a strong man, a man that protects her from the slings and arrows of life. We can be those men and still cry. But it ain’t easy.