• Lumelore (She/her)
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    1 month ago

    That’s fucked. If I was dating a guy and he cried in front of me it would make me happy to know that he feels safe being vulnerable around me. I would treasure him forever after that.

    • khannie@lemmy.world
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      1 month ago

      This is absolutely the way to look at that level of intimacy IMO because that’s how I view it.

      The day my dad died, nearly 23 years ago now, was also the day that I knew I’d ask my wife to marry me.

      It was a long illness and he was relatively young. We were living together and I had just sucked it up for 18 painful months. Never cried once.

      Anyway the day came and I got home and just cracked when we went to bed. I just sobbed in the bed with her. Like a real, deep, deep sobbing.

      She just held me and rubbed my hair and I will never, ever forget that.

      Anyway about 8 months later I asked her to marry me and we’re married over 20 years now and have a beautiful family together. I love her so much.