I looked at that thread earlier and there were so many disgusting comments in there. It reminds me of why I left reddit a few years ago. The API changes and discussion of alternate places led me here, but I left primarily because of all the rampant misogyny, transphobia, racism, etc and the mods and admins who refused to do anything about it.

I really enjoy Blåhaj and the mods and admins here who actually care about kicking out bigots.

Also feel like this is very relevant here:

Thanks for the suggestion! I know he didn’t coin the term but he did write an article on his website trying to get people to use it. He definitely did grab it from the past but either didn’t realize or didn’t care that it has fallen out of usage.

I wasn’t alive in the 90s and I wasn’t aware of trans stuff until I started exploring my gender in 2019 so as a result I am kinda ignorant of the way things were in the 00s and earlier. I really don’t see things like trans* and trans+ being used today, similarly to how you don’t really see people using antiquated terms for transgender either.

Today what I see instead is trans and GNC (gender nonconforming) which serves the same purpose of being a broad umbrella term but is more accurate.

As a computer nerd myself, the wildcard aspect makes me feel like trans* includes things like transportation and transghwujdjrudndndjjd which I don’t like.

Anyways, its not up to cishet person to decide what term should be used to refer to transgender and gnc people. I have a unfinished project, which is a website compiling a bunch of info and resources for trans and gnc people. I came across the genderbread at some point but I decided to research the creator before adding it to the site and that is how I discovered the above info about him.

itspronouncedmetrosexual (aka Sam Killerman) is a cishet white man who’s made a career out of speaking over marginalized voices.

He did not create the genderbread person but he chose to slap his name on it anyways.

He also tried to popularize the term trans* despite not being trans himself nor having the approval of actual trans people. (Trans* is a useless term since trans already includes all trans people. Trans* causes people to falsely think that trans is an uninclusive term)

Here’s a tumblr post for the plagiarism claim You can also find stuff by just searching for “sam killerman controversy” or similar. The other stuff you can find on his own website.

Edit: It seems like my Lemmy client is confusing Tumblr links for Lemmy instance links so I’ll just post it again below just in case.

https://whatdoesenbymean.tumblr.com/post/62247473507/itspronouncedmetrosexual-com-plagarised-the

That reminds me of when I was graduating college a few months ago and it was my first time on campus since I did all my classes online. We had a rehearsal in this theater building and I didn’t know where to go so I followed this group of women I saw. Turned out they were just heading for the restroom but one of them held the door open for me and internally I was like “eeeeeee yay! They see me as a woman!” Didn’t have to go to the bathroom though so I kinda just walked in and then walked right out lol.

Yes! Enbies are valid and there are so many ways to transition. I always say to just do what makes you happy because everyone is different and there is no “correct” way, just different ways.

As a trans woman I wish that others in the community would be treated better. Trans means all trans people and that means enbies, men, and women.

I think that people generally associate trans with trans women because of the media. If we are scary then we are a more effective scapegoat. It’s easier to make trans women scary because they can brand us as perverted men.

I am also aware that there are significantly more trans women in online spaces than trans men. I also see people complaining about more trans women being moderators but of course that’s going to be the case when we make up a larger percentage of the user base. I have no idea what to do about this. I would like there to be as many trans men as there are trans women in these spaces but idk what can even be done to achieve that. I talked about this before with a trans man I know and we both had zero idea how to do that.

I really do like how it looks. Probably the best looking out of all I have seen.

How does it handle instances that have downvotes disabled? It’d be nice to (optionally) see a heart icon or something.

When I was in middle school I walked straight through the middle of a fight. Even went right between the two dudes who were throwing punches at each other. I was really confused as to why people were bunched up in the hallway until an old teacher who used to be in the military came out and started yelling at the top of his lungs.

I think you meant to say Hatsune Miku

One thing I remember is gaining muscle after working out for a few months and feeling this really confusing sadness when I noticed that my shoulders got broader. I was so confused as to why so many guys liked being muscular but it just made me really depressed instead. Took me a while to realize that that strange feeling was actually gender dysphoria.

I have an i5 10600k and a 3060 and I haven’t noticed any sort of cpu bottlenecking. Mostly I just play indie games, but I can play the oblivion remaster with most settings on high with a few on ultra as well.

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I always go for D asap which ends up being C. I don’t want to have a superficial conversation with someone I may never see again. For some reason I am more commonly asked “Any plans for the weekend?” and I always just say “nope” which usually ends the conversation there. One time someone hit me with a “Any plans for the holiday?” which really threw me off because I didn’t have a canned response and I said “I’m picnicking” and I just felt so awkward and embarrassed that I froze and felt like covering my face.

I pretty much only use it to generate boilerplate. I’ve tried using it to learn the syntax of new languages and it kind of works, but in my experience just reading the docs is better even if it seems like a lot of text. Also your IQ really does not matter. You can learn anything as long as you’re willing to put in the time and effort; don’t compare yourself to others it’s fine to go at your own pace. (I’m Autistic also btw)

That makes zero sense. Plus being trans isn’t bad either.

Are you only interested in tablet PCs? I have a drawing tablet I connect to my PC, does that count?

I do the same thing. I don’t think it is cowardly to try to keep yourself safe, even if the method of doing so is avoidance.

There are some places where I just can’t go. One of my cousins is getting married in a few months and her wedding is down south so I feel like it is much too risky to go. I don’t want to get arrested and/or assaulted just for using the restroom and if I did I know those pigs would be especially mean just because I’m trans.