I do the same thing. I don’t think it is cowardly to try to keep yourself safe, even if the method of doing so is avoidance.

There are some places where I just can’t go. One of my cousins is getting married in a few months and her wedding is down south so I feel like it is much too risky to go. I don’t want to get arrested and/or assaulted just for using the restroom and if I did I know those pigs would be especially mean just because I’m trans.

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I haven’t heard of a term for that en anglais, but I would call it “scooting in” ou simply just “launching.”

I was about to comment this as well. I’ve always been kind of weak, but transitioning made me even more so and I quickly realized how easy it would be to get overpowered. Being around men definitely puts me on edge as well.

I’m Autistic and I struggle with driving too. There’s too many things to pay attention to and it overwhelms my brain. It took me 5 tries to get my license. I genuinely would not drive if I didn’t live in the US and had access to reliable public transport. I cope with this by being very cautious. I have a hard time determining speed and distance so sometimes I will sit at a stop sign for notably longer than I need to which upsets the people behind me but I think it’s the only reason I haven’t gotten in an accident yet. I hate how car brained people can be. There’s nothing wrong with not being able to drive and lots of people in non-car brained countries who don’t.

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Yeah. I dual boot on an old laptop just in case I happen to need windows for something and sometimes the windows partition puts itself at the top of the boot order, but my Debian partition is still there and I just have to put it back at the top.

I made my own estrogen mod that doesn’t have a dependency on create. It also has stuff for trans mascs and enbies as well. It’s a little outdated though cause I’ve been busy with college and stuff but I’d like to update it at some point.

Thigh highs are actually a good idea for something to add though. I might actually do that when I get around to updating it.

Did Dominic date James pre-transition and then break up once he came out?

If so, he may have internalized homophobia and doesn’t want to recognize that he dated a boy. He may want to think “James is actually a girl, so I am not gay” and that’s why he deadnames and misgenders him.

If not, then I’m not sure why he thinks that way. If you want help explaining it to him, my experience as a trans woman is that I’ve always had a girl brain despite being amab. Yes, I used to present masculinely but I was still operating with a feminine brain. Swedish fish put into a sour patch kids box are still swedish fish even though the exterior packaging was incorrect, or in other words, my brain is and always has been a girl’s brain despite being put into boy’s packaging.

Also I appreciate you trying to increase others’ understanding of trans people btw :)

I pretty much just sat at my desk, spaced out, and disassociated through most of grade school. In first grade I got detention for having a snowball fight, except I never did fight, and I was just picking up the snow to eat it (I was obsessed with eating snow as a kid). I was so confused and after that I felt like I couldn’t play or engage with anything, so I began to disengage as well.

It’s only recently that I’ve realized disassociating and disengaging have made me very lonely and are no longer helpful to me and I’ve started trying to put more effort into socializing, but I’m also not that great at it.

The sound it makes is exactly where the name comes from. Also there were people in soda territory also calling it pop as well way back in the day. That’s why the term “soda pop” exists.

You can see a D.C. newspaper from the mid 1800s calling it pop in this wiki article.

History of Pop

Pedro’s sister is trans and he seems to be quite supportive of her. It’d be weird for him to be lesbiphobic but not transphobic. I don’t think I’ve ever even heard of someone that is.

I tend to miss things people say if all I have is their voice, so I am definitely better at reading. If I am focusing on comprehending them it reduces my ability to remember what they are telling me, so I too do much better with written instructions.

I took 5 years of French in highschool and I could understand my teacher just fine. Then when I graduated and wanted to continue learning French I would listen to French videos in the background, but I realized I was missing a lot of things, so I went to rewind the video, and then suddenly noticed it was so much easier for me to understand them if I could lip read.

Then I started to remember how when I was kid, and my parents would have me call a relative for whatever reason, and sometimes I would just hear garbled english, and I’d be so nervous and not know what to do, so I’d just say “yeah” and hope that sufficed. This still happens to me, although not as much, but it’s caused me to become phobic of phone calls.

Now that I’ve realized how crucial lip reading is for me to understand speech, I now use only resources where I can actually see the person speaking if I want to practice that.

(Also subtitles are awesome.)

At this point I’m just frustrated about it. Most of my excess fat is on my stomach and I can’t seem to make it go away no matter how much I exercise or diet. Idk if I could be doing more or if I have some condition making it more difficult.

100% some people are genuinely shitty people and their behavior would happen even if society wasn’t misogynist, classist, etc.

My goal wasn’t to alleviate them from responsiblity. I do not believe it is their fault for growing up in a society that is against them, but it is their fault for not thinking crtically and choosing to perpetuate that hate once they are an adult.

Also I was thinking of abuse on a societal level, not an individual level, but that does contribute. (I probably could have used a better word. I do agree that abuse implies individual rather than societal.) I find the fact that so much misogyny and other hate exists within the overton window to be repulsive. Trump said “grab her by the pussy,” (plus a bunch of other terrible things) and got into the oval office not once, but twice, which shows that society has a major problem with finding hate acceptable. Why people find that hate acceptable I imagine varies between demographics.

I still do stand by my previous comment, which is my thoughts on why specifically women voted the way they did, although I agree it has room to be expanded on more.

I think a major part of it is that people simply aren’t thinking things through enough. They should be questioning society’s misogyny, racism, etc, but for some reason they choose to accept it as normal.

Abuse towards women is unfortunately so normalized by society that I bet most of those women don’t realize how much they have been manipulated since childhood to be against their own autonomy, especially if they grew up in a religious environment.

It’s possible that women of minority demographics voted more blue because some realized how anti-(their specific minority) republicans are but, just like the white women, weren’t put off by republicans’ misogyny.

Gock is so cool.
I love gock.

My first ever job was working as a cart pusher at a Walmart supercenter. I naïvely choose to work two long shifts in a row not realizing how much walking that is. Every shift would end with me having open blisters on my feet and I eventually just stopped showing up after a few months because I contracted cellulitis from having so many blisters.

On top of that management was very rude and unreasonable. Despite it being a supercenter, I was often the only person scheduled to work, especially on sundays, meaning I would have to deal with the after church crowd by myself. Usually I would show up to work and carts would be strewn all across the parking lot and none would be in the vestibules since no one was there to do carts until my shift started at 11.

Customers would yell at me to work faster and management would get upset with me since they were getting complaints too, even though it was their fault for having one person do a job that needs multiple people doing it.

Also some people would use the parking lot as a trash heap. People would come by and dump their broken junk that they couldn’t put in their trash can in the parking lot instead of paying to dispose of it at an actual disposal site.