Lumelore (She/her)

I am a trans woman and a computer nerd :3

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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • I always go for D asap which ends up being C. I don’t want to have a superficial conversation with someone I may never see again. For some reason I am more commonly asked “Any plans for the weekend?” and I always just say “nope” which usually ends the conversation there. One time someone hit me with a “Any plans for the holiday?” which really threw me off because I didn’t have a canned response and I said “I’m picnicking” and I just felt so awkward and embarrassed that I froze and felt like covering my face.


  • I pretty much only use it to generate boilerplate. I’ve tried using it to learn the syntax of new languages and it kind of works, but in my experience just reading the docs is better even if it seems like a lot of text. Also your IQ really does not matter. You can learn anything as long as you’re willing to put in the time and effort; don’t compare yourself to others it’s fine to go at your own pace. (I’m Autistic also btw)









  • I’m Autistic and I struggle with driving too. There’s too many things to pay attention to and it overwhelms my brain. It took me 5 tries to get my license. I genuinely would not drive if I didn’t live in the US and had access to reliable public transport. I cope with this by being very cautious. I have a hard time determining speed and distance so sometimes I will sit at a stop sign for notably longer than I need to which upsets the people behind me but I think it’s the only reason I haven’t gotten in an accident yet. I hate how car brained people can be. There’s nothing wrong with not being able to drive and lots of people in non-car brained countries who don’t.





  • Did Dominic date James pre-transition and then break up once he came out?

    If so, he may have internalized homophobia and doesn’t want to recognize that he dated a boy. He may want to think “James is actually a girl, so I am not gay” and that’s why he deadnames and misgenders him.

    If not, then I’m not sure why he thinks that way. If you want help explaining it to him, my experience as a trans woman is that I’ve always had a girl brain despite being amab. Yes, I used to present masculinely but I was still operating with a feminine brain. Swedish fish put into a sour patch kids box are still swedish fish even though the exterior packaging was incorrect, or in other words, my brain is and always has been a girl’s brain despite being put into boy’s packaging.

    Also I appreciate you trying to increase others’ understanding of trans people btw :)


  • Lumelore (She/her)toAutism@lemmy.worldAnyone relate?
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    1 month ago

    I pretty much just sat at my desk, spaced out, and disassociated through most of grade school. In first grade I got detention for having a snowball fight, except I never did fight, and I was just picking up the snow to eat it (I was obsessed with eating snow as a kid). I was so confused and after that I felt like I couldn’t play or engage with anything, so I began to disengage as well.

    It’s only recently that I’ve realized disassociating and disengaging have made me very lonely and are no longer helpful to me and I’ve started trying to put more effort into socializing, but I’m also not that great at it.