I was perplexed by the question. What’s the difference? They explained: “Should I tiptoe and watch my manners around you or be blunt? Flirtatious or chill? Brag about my sexual conquests or talk about our feelings? When you’re sad, do I hug you and buy you ice cream or do we go grab some beers? Should I wonder if we’ll ever hook up?”
I’m not sure if I’m more appalled or confused by this mindset. I thought everyone treated their friends the same regardless of their gender identity. Is this just a fringe case of toxic masculinity, or is this really how the average cis person sees the world?
I left out some context as the post was getting a bit wordy already: I transitioned long ago, I “pass” incredibly well, and my friend has always known me as a (presumably) cis man. His question was coming from “I’ve never known a trans person and don’t know what I’m supposed to do.”
In that case, is the only thing stopping him from hitting on guys his identity as straight?
Yeah, I’m confused by that as well.
Honestly though, this might be the time for a “don’t make it weird bro”