• BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world
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    I didn’t hate it but it’s awfully fake and plastic. Then I watched a few videos this girl posts on Reddit where her husband sets up gang bangs with huge crowds of men for her, and she’s just so dead eyed and visibly just trying to get it over with because he’s making her, while all these men just use her and she just sort of lays there with no facial expression, and despite her captions on her posts that she just loved it, it was super depressing to me and I stopped watching any of it at all. I also think poorly of BDSM but I won’t get into the details as some people on here got upset at my opinion before.

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      It is incredibly disgusting to force or even gently push someone into doing something sexually related that they are not really into.

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        Like it’s so sad to me. She seems so detached from everything she is doing, and the men are just using her while she just waits it out. I hope someone helps her.

  • BougieBirdie
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    I’m not sure if this question is positing that women aren’t stimulated by porn visually, or if it’s using porn as an example of something to be stimulated visually by.

    My wife likes cartoons and has a diploma in animation. Her class was like 80% female. Animation is pretty much by definition visual stimulation.

    But if we’re talking exclusively about eroticism, there’s female directors making porn for the female eye too. IMO it relies less on the gonzo fake shit and tropes of mainstream porn too, so it might actually be healthier to consume (note: not a sexologist)

    Either way, I’m not sure that this divide between men and women exists where you think it does

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    17 hours ago

    but most females are not?

    What are your sources to say that? I mean is it just a feeling or do you have some data?

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    Which species are you talking about?

    If you mean humans you should use “men” and “women”, as these include the social construct of gender and are presumably crucial to your research.

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    all porn is made assuming a male viewer, so it appeals to males, maybe if females had porn made for they then they would be more interested, have you ever seen ladies reading sexy romance novels? they are the target audience of those and they seem popular enough

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      This. Give me heterosexual porn where the focus is on the guy and we barely see or hear the female participant. I’d watch it every day. As it stands, the options are gay porn, solo male vids, or erotica novels.

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          It sounds like you’re not the target demographic because that sounds amazing to me. That’s basically what sex is like for half of the population.

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        yeah my mom never did this, buy my friends moms did

        wild

  • OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml
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    • Women are stimulated by porn, but from what I gather they have a higher level of “disgust” to overcome
    • Women are stimulated by visual things like a good looking bod
    • Women in general have lower levels of wanting to smash everything, it’s not much deeper than that
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    Most male female porn is pretty aggressive and frankly patriarchal. A lot of the female female porn is made for a male audience but is still preferable to other women I know and myself, than male female porn, because of that aggression in hetero porn. As a trans woman and a lesbian, I can’t really speak for gay porn. I haven’t watched much of it. But I know some women enjoy it.

    And just like men, women have their own tastes.

    All of that said, the female sex drive is very different than men’s. And I’m sure it affects how much porn we end up consuming.