Share some activities you’ve been interested in doing but couldn’t do because you’re closeted.

Transmasc, Transfem, Nonbinary, and Gender Non-Conforming answers are all welcome and encouraged here.

  • MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz
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    2 months ago

    People who would get “dragged down” by someone they know transitioning are doing it to themselves. There is no logic in laying the blame on the person transitioning.

    It costs nothing to be kind and supportive to those around you, so I would consider those who won’t even do that, to be the selfish ones.

    If a person struggles with someone they know transitioning, good, because maybe that finally provokes the introspection in them, required to become a better person.

    If it doesn’t, I don’t know how to help them.

    But I know how to help you. Transitioning is not selfish. It’s life-saving.

    • dandelion
      2·
      2 months ago

      Yes, in my experience the only people in your life who really struggle are people who have their own issues (i.e. it never actually seems to be about you or your transition exactly) e.g. people who are closeted and who experience pain when reminded of their issues when they see you.

      Usually even a bigoted religious person isn’t directly mean to you, it seems like the Christians generally reiterate how much they love you and so on (but they don’t want to talk too much about gender). In fact, I don’t find anyone wanting to talk about gender IRL, lol. Anyway, it’s hard to tell how it will go - I think it’s also different if you’re a minor living at your parents’ house compared to an independent adult. It also depends on who is in your life, and how they felt about you before you transitioned.

      Either way, transitioning is like taking medication as a diabetic or someone with hypothyroidism - it really is life-saving and necessary.