• SoleInvictus
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    5 months ago

    My wife and I have been together for a decade. Before she and I met, I dated pretty heavily on the online options at the time. All of my worst dates ever were found online. I decided online dating was depressing and stupid, just stopped trying to date anyone, and started just meeting people in person. It was wildly more successful. I had fewer dates but they were way higher quality. No one showing up on shrooms, ghosting me, or acting scandalized because I’m a little guy despite it being outlined multiple times in my online profile.

    Aside: The latter is my personal favorite. I’m a hair over 5’6 and proportionally built. I’m not just short, I’m small. One woman I met immediately accused me of being deceptive about my height, even though I was actually taller than claimed at around 5’7 with dress shoes on. She was also 5’6 but was standing a bit taller than me. She had forgotten she was wearing heels. That date ended quickly. Bullet dodged.

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      My sister is 5’3" and she had a thing for tall guys. After a string of bad dates, she decided to give someone a shot who was 5’2". Six years later they got married.

      Nothing but respect for the short king with mad moves. My brother-in-law is cool as hell and I’m glad he’s the guy my sister landed on.

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        5 months ago

        Height is such a bad thing to filter based on.

        My wife’s best friend was complaining about how she goes on lots of dates but there’s never a real connection. She is a little taller than average but insisted she needed a guy at least 6’2" (so he would be at least X" taller than her when she was wearing X" heels).

        That’s just a terrible priority if you want a real connection.

        Because you want to have to tilt your head up at least 20° (?) to kiss while wearing high heels, you’re willing to eliminate 95% of bachelors? Have you considered the logistics of kissing while you’re not wearing high heels?

        But the criterion was like a point of pride for her, like her ego wouldn’t allow her to look for someone less than 6’2". Super weird. Just not a good way to find a partner.

      • JovialMicrobial@lemm.ee
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        My husband and I are the same height. Never understood the whole tall dude preference/requirement but people are into different things I guess. A nice side perk is I can borrow his shirts and not be swimming in them. They’re still baggy and comfortable from the different cut, but not so big the sleeves cover my hands.