I’m fairly new to all of this. I started questioning 3-4 weeks ago and feel like I’m kind of figuring some things out in my mind, but also like I’m at a roadblock or a fork in the road. I feel like to see where I need/want to go next, I need to explore, but I don’t know how. I’ve heard about playing a game or whatever online and use a different identity, but it’d be hard to cram another game in enough for that to feel useful. I could try on some clothes, but that feels so limited in what it tells me. I’m sure it could be related to the fact that over time I have been convincing myself there’s not boy/girl clothes, they’re just fabric anyone can buy. (I think some of this came to be when my first child was conceived and we specifically avoided gendering kids things) Maybe I’m just looking for a way to get confirmation about what I think I’m feeling?

When you were discovering yourself, what did your journey look like? What do I do? Do you have any advice?

I’m open (and less panicked) about the ideas of some identity possibilities, but still when I think deeply, “how do I really feel about myself?” I just feel kind of empty, or a void. Any advice or guidance at all would be super helpful and much appreciated!

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  • fungalfae@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I’m still pre E, but I’ll recommend that you start as many things as possible (doctors appointments, speech therapist, new wardrobe) and just slow down/ delay/cancel the ones you don’t feel ready for.

    (This is written assuming you’re in a place with good healthcare access, but long waits. Be certain before you actually start any medical changes)

    • Blahaj_BlastOP
      2·
      1 year ago

      I appreciate the advice and urgency (I have heard long line horror stories) but atm that sounds more dramatic than I’m prepared for. I was hoping for more ideas for something that is like a test where I either think “no I can’t do this” or “damn really is how it is” before moving to those steps.

      • fungalfae@lemmy.world
        2·
        1 year ago

        I’ve very much been in the same boat. I’m afraid that no one will come to you and go “here, this is exactly what to do, we’re doing it now and then you’ll be done transitioning”.

        The closest to that I’ve found is voice training, but that’s mainly because I didn’t realise how uncomfortable I was with my voice until I had to pick up the phone and present with my chosen name and voice alone.