A lot of us experience dysphoria about a lot of things. Personally, one of my biggest points of dysphoria is my facial/body hair and masculine sounding voice.

We believe this should be a community where all trans people are welcome to give and receive support on their journey.

Feel free to rant about what’s been bothering you and try and comment on someone else’s comment with some encouragement! It can really go a long way to brightening someone’s day!

Love to all my trans brothers, sisters, enbies and all other flavors of people who live as they are ❤️

-Olivia (oNevia)

  • oNeviaOPMEnglish
    7·
    9 months ago

    Live in a red state as well and it really sucks! I’ve found that more androgenous clothing is a little more forgiving for my anxiety than full on femme clothing like dresses or skirts. Then I’ll put on a nice necklace to femme it up just a tad more and I feel pretty cute but not too clockable.

    Sure I still get some funny looks but my anxiety about the situation is a lot better. Do you think something like that might help?

      • ZorsithEnglish
        4·
        9 months ago

        Does being trans have a major impact on finding tech jobs or is it just the industry as a whole right now? I have heard tech/IT is a bit more accepting than some career paths. I’ve debated if it might be better for me to get out before starting to transition.

        • knightly the Sneptaur@pawb.socialEnglish
          4·
          9 months ago

          It’s the tech industry overall right now.

          They overhired during the pandemic, and now they’re over-firing 'cuz of the AI bubble. Once it pops they’ll start hiring like crazy again.

      • cowboycrustation [he/him]MEnglish
        4·
        9 months ago

        You could use a binder like what FTMs use if you want to hide them in specific situations. They’re not that expensive. A decent one will cost you $20-40.

        • fadingembersEnglish
          3·
          9 months ago

          I can hide my chest, that’s what I’m doing now for the most part. My issue is getting over my fear/anxiety of being hate crimed so I can live as myself in public

          • cowboycrustation [he/him]MEnglish
            4·
            9 months ago

            That really sucks. I’m sorry you’re in that situation. I haven’t got an easy answer for you, but I hope you’re able to find those little pockets in your area where you can be yourself. Hang in there.

      • oNeviaOPMEnglish
        3·
        9 months ago

        I went for clothing that was a bit more unisex in nature and then having some “accessories” to femme things up (or masc things up if I’m having a rough self conscious day)

        So examples would be experimenting with different colors on you. So before my egg cracked, I just wore grey, black and navy blue. Very drab and unapologetic.

        Now I wear all sorts of colorful pieces. Pink, purple, maroon, whatever looks good for my skin tone.

        Also, you can femme up most outfits with a nice cardigan and if you’re feeling extra cute, a nice necklace or bracelet. Still femme but a little less “noticable” If anything, I’m probably clocked as gay or queer but not specifically trans yet.

        Now, once my boobs grow in that’ll be a different story but it’s a good transitionary approach to wardrobe.